Why do we believe the poor need to be educated to get out of poverty in Africa when the looting and stealing are done by the most educated people. It takes more than education to be reasonable. Perhaps, what we truly need in Africa is the spirit of God to penetrate our heart, refine our thoughts and action then rational behaviour will be a cherished way of life for all. Queen Ama
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It reminds me of those cramps which women get when expecting to go through monthly purification or ready to expel that child in the delivery ward. It is no different from the feelings of bitterness, pain, loneliness, longing and disrespect. It is exactly how women with a regretful experience think of men who have put them through a dark route.
There is no woman who has never had their own fair share of sorrow from a man whom she thought was in an intimate relationship with her. Those feelings have a way of resurrecting in marriage; it gets worse because there is actually no outlet. A time when your original body shape becomes distorted from having children. Ageing makes it better as another younger woman is likely to take over from you at the slightest decision to walk away in search of another man.
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Men have been the weaker version of women, and we must support them. They love to be pampered, and they act like babies craving attention. It is no wonder so many women get it wrong at this stage after having a child whom they divert all their attention to. We have got to learn men are deficient in some ways and can hardly deal with pain. Most men would die going through 9 months of pregnancy and having to deliver a child. They claim to be hard wired and put on a poker face, but a deep woman is able to see through those theatrical performance and understand it better.
Those who have been successful with their men are those who have looked beyond the glossy surface. They know it is essential to have a partner, a friend and a husband. It is not a military zone where people are scared to reveal who they truly are by showcasing their weaknesses.
An environment where such relationship is shared you are likely to see 2 distinct individuals strong and Independent on their own, but more powerful together. Once that knot is tied through marriage one is not far from another course of study. Examinations and learning does not end in a classroom environment, even when you fail you need to go back and excel in those areas until you get a pass mark you cannot go to the next level.
Move on to another course of study, it will be so difficult to do well because you have it behind your mind I did not do so well before and failed.
Here, is how to deal with men, you do not need to date so many to understand them. They all belong to a group called "Homo-Sapiens". Why have they been grouped? They share the same features and characteristics. Women just pick one and understand those characteristics your problem is half-way solved. Try moving on to another man one will find his no different from the first.
"There is no need keeping more than one man to cushion one‘s loss".
"It is far better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".
"Women go through a monthly purification whilst men need a daily purification to strike the balance".
"True Love Will Save the Day".
Ladies we are not too far from February 14, a day where we look the one we truly love in the eyes and say to them," It has not been easy, but we are still together and will surely make it to our destination".
"Celebration of love and affection between intimate companions come at a cost, you have got to work hard at it. It is no surprise exchange of gifts, flowers and cards have a permanent seat in the hearts of those who have truly loved each other.
Valentine is just another day like every other day for those who understand true love.
Ladies!, the secret to a peaceful home is having Christ as the unseen guest at every meal.
Ladies we do not have to spend too much to look good this valentine, once the heart is happy the body speaks for itself.
This biggest proof we can boast of this valentine, "A healthy relationship and true love".
All my love to the ladies as we count down to the basket of red roses and true Love!
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The "psychic black man"; Not only did he choose the right teams but accurately predicted Spain and Germany will get to that point in the world cup. Now, Spain In and Germany out but still within his psychic boundary. Let us see if Spain wins the final game as his incredible mind had predicted a month ago.
Origination and Deterioration of a fever is 100% from excessive exposure to a source; and yet it would seem world cup fans 5609 miles (9027 km) from South Africa are not left out. Here in London is how a Lady displayed behind her house as the world cup pyrexia increased in anticipation for the first tournament between South Africa vs. Mexico.
Is it possible for a mother to walk out on her child just a few hours old? Is it a Man's fault this time around?
Chris Ben Hmmmmm let me wait for others before I say my mind. This is despicable but who to blame? Fathers? Mothers? Kids? Hmmmmmm
January 21 at 8:11pm
Ander The man has no blame here so its the woman. January 22 at 9:06am
Emmanuel There is very little understanding and less empathy for the lady involved or reason she engaged in this devastating act of putting the life of this innocent new born in such danger. i things in this case is due to adolscent age and the boy might be in his teens too.Both gender has a fault in this act.
January 22 at 9:41am
Ama Mr Ben, yes I agree this is despicable, but if you wait for others before you speak using words to express how you feel from your heart as opposed to your head then it becomes biased. @Alex I have always known life starts with 2 people coming together and deeply involved in the act of copulation. There is no child without the Man's sperm and the woman cooperating with the Man. I am just wondering if it would be fair to totally eliminate the "seed source" in this case the Man. Men are responsible for providing finance for the home, whilst women are mainly in charge in the upbringing of a child. I am sure both are not interested in that responsibility just yet. How does one shift blame to one party?
January 22 at 11:22am
Emmanuel But Woman carries the major blame in such situation. How can carry pregnancy for nine solid month with hard labor at end u abadon the child, that despicable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!haba
January 22 at 11:32am
Sandra @ Ama… the fact of the matter is that it takes two to tango and for some reason, the responsibility of raising a child has fallen solely upon the young teenagers (who shouldn’t be having sex in the first place) but the boys (fathers) go scot free. Maybe the girls are getting tired of the deals that they are getting. Let the police start looking for the fathers of abandoned children… yes
January 22 at 11:33am
Emmanuel I think is only heartless human being is capable of doing such. I don't see any blame of the man in some cases he might be unaware of the pregnancy
January 22 at 11:35am
Sandra This is why we are raising a bunch of irresponsible young men in and out of the church, who do not have a sense of responsibility or accountability, they think they can just have careless sex and not pay the price for it.... The police should start looking for the fathers...
Sandra @ Emmanual........ and how many mennnnnnnnnnnnnnn know that it is their children and deny them? Thousands! Please let us not get holier than thou here... I am a minister and I see this all the time. You have unprotected and non-marital sex and produce a child, take care of him/her........... Not the state, not your parents or your grand-parents. It is your SOLE responsibility.
January 22 at 11:37am
Sandra @ Emmanuel.......... are you seriously asking why Sandra? What part is not clear so that I can elaborate and bring about clarity
January 22 at 11:38am
Emmanuel am not saying that men got no role to play, but under no circummstances does the girl have to abandone her child like that. She got nine good month to clear whatever problems she had with the boy that impregnated her i.e is if she has any
January 22 at 11:43am
Ama Mr Uchonnu I agree with you it is so wicked for any woman to abandon her child after such long process of pregnancy. I respect her for taking that decision to carry the child but where she went wrong was abadoning the child afterwards. The Mother clearly knows others would look after her child in a system where there are laws and provision for such act of wickedness. However, where is the father in all of this. He also should be brought into the picture. I am sure that Man knew about the pregnancy but denied or asked her to terminate the pregnancy. How do we know it is a teenage father responsible for the pregnancy. I have seen adults and even married men act like the teenager we are all trying to picture here. A teenage boy would be excited most times to father his child whilst a Man who has a wife is likely to deny such pregnancy.
January 22 at 11:43am
Emmanuel who told you atenage boy will be excited that is going to be a father?except one who is not ambitious
January 22 at 11:46am
Ama Emmanuel a teenager is at the age of trying out new adventures. The only time I see such young men doing it differently is when peers and family sounds warning on what they are likely to miss from such act of taking responsibility.
January 22 at 11:50am
Emmanuel and fathering a child is a new adventures abi?
January 22 at 11:55am
Ama Adventure is what it says " An unusual, Exciting, and daring experience. A young Man who has never been to the labour ward or seen a child coming forth from a woman is likely to call this an adventure. I find teenagers hate to be called so and want to act the path of adults. He would gladly jump at the opportunity for such who wants the life of adulthood in his teenage years.
Emmanuel you know this youthful exhorbirant of thing, they are eager to prctice what they watch in movies.
January 22 at 12:39pm
Ama @ Sandra I wish it were possible to keep adventure zipped completely in a pair of pants, but then again is no-longer adventure. Adventure is not for cowards and keeping it solely locked up in a pair of pants is the norm for people who understand it is not just right to get involved in those actions likely to present one with the responsibility of a married couple especially when still a teenager. Cowards play it safe and wait until when it is just about time. Teenagers hate to follow the path of cowardice especially at that age where they need and have to prove a point. As a matter of fact any parent wanting to have a good relationship with their teenage child should start working on them just before they reach the teen period. You need to make them your friend, educate them of certain actions and their likely consequences. It is amazing how most kids tend to change when they get to this stage. One begins to wonder if the developmental changes going on in their bodies are responsible for that shift in a normal expected routine.
January 22 at 9:56pm ·
Roseline It well seems that masturbation,contraceptives,abstinence,preservatives aren't helping matters meaning we are left with the option of self will,discipline and tolerance,what that woman did was despicable and a shame to the woman generation,but there is a saying that goes that prevention is better than cure,what lead to her pregnancy could have been avoided,but the reason for abandoning that child we can not tell,which could be lack of finance,either she was raped and did not want to keep the child of a rapist or it is either fear of her parents disowning her and the child,or her being considered as a taboo to humanity,or a disgrace which i must say is no excuse whatsoever for her abandoning that child,but the bone of contention here is who is to be blamed???the root of this problem starts with an action of agreement which may be based on pressure for sustainment of the rship,as we know that a woman says i want a rship without sex,and the guy say sure i love u,i will wait for you,as time goes the guy pressures the girl,she says am afraid i may get pregnant,the guy says no you wont there are condoms,so nothing would happened,this is reality!on the other hand when a mistake occurs and she gets pregnant,she informs the guy,the guy suddenly realises that i dont have money,i need to finish my school,i need to find a job,this and that,of course the girl may not want to abort with the fear of damaging her womb,but at the beginning the girl had a choice of working away if she was ready to stick to her conditions of having a rship with the guy which is the hardest part,she is afraid of losing the guy,all in the name of LOVE!at a teenager age your level of sexual activity increase,at that time your hormones flows like wild fire,and a teenager mistakes this to be love,and this point a teenager would want to explore without thinking of the consequences!the feeling of course is beautiful but the result is outrageous!its unfortunate that we can not control the secretion of our hormones,but we definitely can control our desires,this is self control,a girl and a boy undergoes certain changes in their body,weird feelings arise and they dont understand what is going on in their bodies,they ask their parents,what is happening the parents deviate from the question with the fear that it may create a negative effect on the child,which is wrong!we can not guarantee the fact that a child with a good home training would also make a mistake of impregnating a girl,so both parents,men,women we all share in the responsibilities of the mistakes we make we i must say can not be avoided,but left in the hands of our self disciplin and control.
January 22 at 10:35pm ·
Chris Ben Hello Guys, Nice contributions - To answer the first question, thats the case here right? As for the second question well a lot of people are to blame. It would be nice if we all stepped out of our "jimmy choos" (shoes) and ask ourselves what the root cause of the problem is. The reasons behind teenage pregnancy would vary from country to country, the demographics on the other hand are similar. Teenage parents are mostly from poor families, as such they lack the basic parental and societal guidance about methods of birth control, in fact many pregnant teenagers do not have any cognition of the central facts of sexuality and that is the bane of this problem. Lets start from africa, how many parents discuss safe sex education and methods of birth control with their children from an early age? The typical Nigerian mother while bathing her child would be ready to explain any part of the body and what it does to her child but the minute the child's hand goes to the crotch region the mother would smack it away and say "if I see your hand there again" This is sad but true, sex is shrouded in too much of a mystery and if we are to deal with this issue the first buck stops at the door of the parents. We all are to blame for this young girl abandoning her child because we have failed to successfully imbibe in our children the tools they would need to survive in the harsh harsh world we live in. Knowledge is power and how many of us would sit that niece down to say hey look this is what it is and this is what it is not, if you must do it then use this and use that , if you ever find yourself in a situation where you did not use a condom then get this over the counter. KNOWLEDGE is the only way to combat this problem because like they say you kill a dragon when it is young, and these drives and campaigns should be focused mainly on the female children because they have a lot more to loose. Once the girl gets pregnant then the debate about who to blame and who not to blame or who should be held responsible should be thrown out of the window, we must focus ourselves on how to help those who have fallen prey to it. The society has to come up with ways to take care of these teenage mothers and the babies because if you do not stem the tide, that young baby girl might just be the next teenage mother out of neglect.
January 22 at 11:42pm ·
Ama @Roseline you could not have understood and expressed it better asking for the attention of basic values and virtues one needs to succeed in life. They are not far-fetched; Self-control, discipline and tolerance. Now we are talking serious business and could be seen as crude and old -fashioned. That is the solution. How do you acquire and practice them is a new beginning. It requires renewing of one's mind of these virtues on a daily basis.Those who have made it habitual hardly loose sleep. Friends, can you imagine what that Teenage girl, the father, mother and boy-friend are going through right now. They all need to have done it right from the start. However, they all have missed the way. How does one react to those victims is another topic for debate. please go to this link and read what you see as it is a true life story.http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/2010/12/why-is-lion-not-shutting-up.html
When one is between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea, One finds the answer most think is taking off as the teenager did in this scenario. One has to understand what is going on in her mind as opposed to her head this time. One knows a little innocent child, her blood and a part of a teenager have been forgotten in a maternity ward. One respects the commitment to have the child in the first place, but did she know she was pregnant. What life is she hoping to get afterwards? I mean the teenage girl has left behind a part of her in a distant land. It is surprising that "after all this" it is possible to start life fully again, but making up one's will never to tow that track "come rain, come sunshine". It is not an easy decision once you have eaten the forbidden fruit. It leaves a sour taste in the mouth of the victim and many others whom are affected by the decision, to disobey. Onlookers are not left behind who spread distressing news by managing another "Wikileaks" company. Thankfully, "Man should not be afraid to start life having reached the end."
12 minutes ago ·
Ama
This is another hot matter trying to make out in our heads what could have happened here. One can only learn from this before it knocks at your door claiming another teenage daughter in your home. Now is the time to get your teenage children to be your friend and do not compete with them.
We have all linked our ideas across the globe with words, reaffirming what we believe in by our level of faith and of course asking in unison for a certain path to be towed by young teenagers based on ones' culture. One is not wrong when one states clearly what links us across the globe is our "words, faith and culture." See you same time next week on QUEEN AMA'S FOOD FOR THOUGHT.
Perhaps, you need to go beyond the dictionary
definition of masturbation to discuss with somebody who has once engaged in the act. Masturbation sometimes, comes as a life saver. I condem it though, but the animalistic tendencies in man will always bring about masturbation especially in young adults. This challenge can be solved by consciously guiding our thoughts and it takes a while
January 8 at 9:43pm
@Basil, u have a point though, but it is not necessarily so. once a man is caught by the virus - i mean masturbation, no matter how the wife satisfies him, he will masturbate in her absence. This is perhaps, the mystery behind masturbation that only a few can explain....
January 8 at 9:53pm · Like · 1 person
Masturbation is not a bad thing as religious books paint it to be. I always say that if you are not an expert in a field of science steer clear from making judgments in it.Fact 1 - In 2009, the UK Government joined the Netherlands and other European nations in encouraging teens to masturbate at least daily. An orgasm was defined as a right in its health pamphlet. The obvious reasons being that it reduces teen pregnancy and STIs (STDs), and to promote healthy habits. 1950s studies on US population have shown that 92% of men and 62% of women have masturbated during their lifespan, in the UK It was found that, between individuals aged 16 to 44, 95% of men and 71% of women masturbated at some point in their lives. 73% of men and 37% of women reported masturbating in the four weeks before their interview, while 53% of men and 18% of women reported masturbating in the previous seven days. These numbers speak for themselves, no matter how much you want to see it as bad it is part of the human nature. Let’s not even go into the health benefits. Masturbation can also be particularly useful in relationships where one partner wants more sex than the other – in which case masturbation provides a balancing effect and thus a more harmonious relationship like the case above, it has been there since time memorial and will always be there. January 10 at 7:51pm ·
I don’t think it’s possible for a man to masturbate while married. Exceptions exist though and few assumptions come to the fore. Is the wife deformed, does she have any challenges satisfying the man? Is the man bound to the habit before marriage? These are some questions needed to be addressed.
January 12 at 2:39pm
@Augustine, that is a pretty narrow way to look at the issue, I made some valid summations above. We all have different libidos and as such look for ways to attend to it. It is very sad how some of these things have been demonized. January 12 at 8:45pm ·
Where is self-control and restraint in all of this? Now because I love cars and I cannot afford a Bentley do I steal to satisfy my urge for Bentley? Do I borrow my neighbour's Bentley just to make myself happy? Too much of everything is bad; sex should also be in moderation.
Saturday at 10:19pm · Commentator 6
@Ama your analogy is quite crude and does not model the issue at hand quite well. Is masturbation a bad thing? I think we should start from there. I have constantly harped on this as being one of those issues that are demonized for the sake of it regardless of whatever benefits it might have. This is issue really has little to do with moderation; it is a way to let of steam for some if not most people. What do you want an individual working say in a bbc meteorological station situated in the North pole to do? He is there for years without his wife and is performing duties that keep the meteorology world afloat. Are you going to say he should not at least satisfy himself sexually? He should turn of his hormones? I admit that it is not impossible to do but it would be quite harsh for you not to consider that just like we all have different libidos we possess different will power and if this is something that would help the man function then he should be allowed to have at it without feeling guilty. Furthermore countless teens engage in it rather than expose themselves to the teeming population of STD's we have there. I am an advocate that abstinence does not work and that is the painful truth no one wants to believe. People have sex every day, everyday teens, young adults, adults everyone does it. Let us campaign instead on ways to make it safe.
3 hours ago · Like · 1 person
Ben I totally disagree with you and most times the call for discipline and control may seem rather crude but in fact is the solution. You obviously belong to the growing school of thought who believes that masturbation is not just harmless but actually healthy. Even in some Christian circles, it is said that since it involves no other person it cannot be harmful. Nothing could be further from the truth. The fuel for masturbation is the image of the person's object of desire. A person cannot masturbate without the aid of a spirit of lust. This spirit usually does not act alone; it often brings other negative spirits. For example pornography is often accompanied by masturbation. It is instructive that most people who masturbate admit to feeling "dirty" after the act. Some also admit to a feeling of shame and guilt. These are certainly not the feelings associated with a "wholesome act". The act of masturbation constitutes worship to the spirits of sexual immorality that instigated it. These spirits eventually enslave and dominate the person engaging in the act. This is the sole reason why people who engage in this practice and art find it so difficult to get out from enslavement. Hence the decision to start new school of thought masturbation is not just "harmless but actually healthy". Children who engage in masturbation find it easier to have the real sex without looking back. Adults who engage in masturbation even when married are more likely to cheat on their spouse on a regular basis. "A SEXUAL ADDICT IS A PERSON WHO IS ENSLAVED TO COMPULSIVE SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR". It does not matter whether it is fornication, masturbation, pornography or whether the person is an exhibitionist, a voyeur or an adulterer. His soul has been ensnared in a web of sexual immorality. What may have started out as "harmless fun" has now become a bondage. Such a person will get a "high" from the sexual activity in much the same way an alcoholic would from alcohol or a drug addict from drugs. In a perverse way, he gets a buzz from doing something he knows he shouldn't. I will end this by saying " stolen waters (pleasures) are sweet (because they are forbidden); and bread eaten in secret is pleasant." Proverbs 9:17 a=AMP.The solution! What can I do to get rid of sexually immoral thoughts and images that plague one?
2 hours ago ·
my only point is don’t be a judge leave people to their habits stop condemning if it isn’t good for u just stop it might just be another’s saviour from disease death and many shit it cud eve save the marriage from infidelity even pornstars who have maxi sex also masturbate.
2 hours ago · Like · 1 person
Ama, permit me to digress a bit before I come back to the crux of the issue at hand here. I am of the opinion that this group stands for people who are intellectually independent enough to deal with issues as they affect us today. The group should create an avenue where people regardless of race or religious affiliations would be able to relate to the issues being discussed without prejudice, there are many people reading this even if they do not have the nerve to comment for fear of being judged as bad people. That said let us go back to the issue at hand; we have to separate morality from 'biblical" morality. If you were to explain to a young Hindu boy how would you tell him that what he is doing is wrong? Even from a Christian point of view your claim that a person cannot masturbate without the spirit of lust is at best specious and lacks the insight an advisory on such issues should have. If we go back to the analogy of the man in the North pole what stops the man from masturbating with the thoughts of the love of his life which happens to be his wife? Would that be a sin too? huh? Only people who have heard sermons from people like you all their lives that doing it is bad feel guilty after masturbating, people feel bad when they do things that are not in line with the things the "profess" to believe, this does not make it true in any way. Quite ostensibly you have also made claims about children having sex and adults cheating if they masturbate, do you have any evidence to support your claims? or is it just how you feel? Logic would point that a person averse to sorting out hormonal issues by masturbating would find it less interesting to waste time and resources chasing skirts to satisfy that same need. My dear let us deal with issues in a way that it would help everyone, this idea of wishing away issues would not help us at all. Take eastern and southern Africa for instance which have the highest population of Catholics in the continent, they have been refused the use of condoms because the church believes it interferes with the process of pro creation, they have the highest cases of HIV/AIDS in Africa. Why? Because no matter how much you thump the bible people would still have sex and if they do not do it in a safe way then you leave them to the mercy of these viruses "who" not surprisingly do not know what the book of proverbs says. They would just destroy their hosts’ body and that my dear AMA is the FACT of this issue at hand. about an hour ago · Like · 1 person
Ama if i may ask you from which point of view are we talking about??? Are u talking about masturbation generally or only from the religious point of view?? Then maybe you should restate the question about masturbation, have you noticed that even pastors hardly preach on masturbation, why do you think so???
about an hour ago ·
@ Roseline... it is great that you talk about clarifying Ama's position as whether from a religious standpoint, I am pastor and we do preach about all types of things and perhaps if we addressed it more then there will be little confusion about the topic. Most of the times pastors either preach from inspiration or from social ills depending where they are and what they consider important. While I am pastor and believe in abstinence I also am realistic that everyone will not practice so I say be safe and use protection... some may disagree with me, but I am here for people to live another than to die and go to hell. A dead man cannot repent...
about an hour ago · Like · 1 person
Ben this is an open debate and everyone is free to comment. It is not an avenue to judge others but a place where hot matters are tested and analysed. Thankfully I have been on both sides of the coin and understand masturbation is not really the way to go. However if you still believe it helps you being a strong advocate then continue in the practice of masturbation. However, I find anything which you can't control overtime enslaves you and becomes an enemy. Coming back to hiv/aids in Africa doctors warn that it is better to abstain. You can catch hiv/aids from oral sex and other techniques within sex. Abstinence, self-control and restraint is the way forward. There is nothing religious about this. You cannot play your way around HIV/AIDS and not even masturbation can help here. Again abstaining is the way forward, control and doing things in moderation.
about an hour ago ·
@Roseline this is a general topic on masturbation. Therefore if anyone has a viewpoint they should bring it to Queen Ama's food for thought to be tested clearly by experts in various fields for it to be accepted.
about an hour ago ·
Like Roseline pointed out let us know if this is a religious discussion or a secular one then we know what ship to board as regards the answers we bring forth. I have been on both sides of the coin to and my saying masturbation is the way to go does not make it true. My point is if one can stand it and it does not harm any other person then we have to allow the person be. Our sexuality would always be part of us it is criminal to tell anyone to turn of their hormones so they would not become slaves to it. As for the issue of abstinence lets not even go there, here are some facts for you to digest according to a 2000 report by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), correct and consistent use of latex condoms reduces the risk of HIV/AIDS transmission by approximately 85% relative to risk when unprotected, putting the seroconversion rate (infection rate) at 0.9 per 100 person-years. Analysis published in 2007 from the University of Texas Medical Branch and the World Health Organization found similar risk reductions of 80–95%. Africa is inhabited by just over 14.7% of the world's population; it is estimated to have more than 88% of people living with HIV and 92% of all AIDS deaths in 2007! Those are human beings AMA even up to children born into this world with the disease from no fault of theirs and you still think we should be preaching abstinence? Southern Africa has the worst adult prevalence in the whole of Africa and they have been preaching abstinence, I am at a loss here.....what result does one get from trying the same approach over and over again? about an hour ago · Like · 1 person
@ Ben that is the problem people who out of lack of self-control and restrain would ignore a solution preventing millions from dying. Hiv/Aids did not start with millions of people getting infected. it started with just one person and has spread like wild fire. Probably if that one man kept to himself practising masturbation I would agree with you masturbation is good. However, HIV/AIDS is not the topic of debate. Is it possible for a Man to keep masturbating even when married? Why would a Man masturbate when he has a wife? It is not a religious topic even-though one could get religious solutions to answer such questions.
about an hour ago ·
Many thanks for clarifying things Ama, the answers are out there for anyone to choose from. Married men and women alike masturbate. The reasons are obvious; there is nothing remotely spiritual about it. It’s just hormones doing their thing.
about an hour ago
@ Ben funny enough there are other activities people can engage in giving them the same satisfaction as masturbation when a partner is not there to assist them. You can try plummeting 130ft or sky diving that can also help. The feeling you get is wonderful. Although nothing still compares to couples enshrining their love in the form of love-making or copulation but not one masturbating and thinking of other sex scenes with another woman whom he eventually goes out to cheat with. I have heard of cases where husband and wife in the act of love making call another woman or man's name just at the point of climax. You ask the man or woman later and he/she denies saying it was just a name I used to call when masturbating because you were not in town and away in the BBC meteorological station situated in the North pole.
51 minutes ago
ROTFLMAO that was actually funny, but hold your horses for a bit, how would a man living in the slums of India get the resources to take bus ride for himself not to talk of sky diving? We must try to keep our suggestions grounded and modest enough for every tobe, dike and Cecelia out there. Ama people think of other sex scenes when having sex with other people even if they do not masturbate, some men need these images in their heads so they do not cheat on their wives. Masturbating is joy to the many millions in the world who are cut of from their loved ones, they find solace in knowing that they have kept their bodies physically at least for the one they love. You have to try and open your mind here, some people cannot just do without sex for a long time and that does not make them weaker people. It’s just who they are
43 minutes ago ·
Ben I would not encourage the idea people cannot do without sex for a long time. That is a very flimsy excuse. Who cannot do without sex? Who does not love sex? Christian sisters you see in church are more sensual than most people who think they cannot do without sex. The lack of self-control and mind control cannot be over emphasized here. I need a doctor to clarify this point that hormonal differences in Men make them masturbate when married and think of other sex scenes which later becomes a thing of reality as oppose to an initial idea. I tell you something self-control and restrain are the hardest virtues to practice but once you start with the grace of GOD you laugh at your past understanding those frivolous behaviour were just not necessary. Ben I have nothing to add at this point other than stick to my claims that masturbation is not the way to go and an unwholesome practice which people are not very comfortable coming out in the open to agree they practice it and enjoy it.
28 minutes ago.
I was about to quit myself, the merry go round is making me feel woozy already. People are not comfortable admitting it because they feel it’s a taboo that is a no brainer. Like you said leave the job to a doctor, you have not been able to tell us why it is an unwholesome practice from the general point of view and that is what I asked you. To state categorically what is wrong with masturbating, your claim that people who masturbate go on to cheat does not wash at all.
22 minutes ago ·
Ben read all my comments and you will understand why I still stick with Masturbation not being good for anyone. When you have read it and have any more questions let me know or you can email me on my personal email box on ama.kachikwu@giamediaservciesltd.com.
At this junction, I did like to say this has been a hot and spicy debate on Queen Ama;s Food for thought but not without Ben, Tony, Roseline and Sandra who have made it worthwhile. Thank you so much for your immense contributions and adding the right ingredients. If you are a medical doctor please email us as your expertise would be required to further understand why Men masturbate thinking of a sex scene; which later becomes a thing of reality with 2 people involved this time as oppose to an initial 1 minute fun or idea done solely.
11 minutes ago ·
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