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Is it possible for a mother to walk out on her child just a few hours old? Is it a Man's fault this time around?
Chris Ben Hmmmmm let me wait for others before I say my mind. This is despicable but who to blame? Fathers? Mothers? Kids? Hmmmmmm
January 21 at 8:11pm
Ander The man has no blame here so its the woman.
January 22 at 9:06am
Emmanuel There is very little understanding and less empathy for the lady involved or reason she engaged in this devastating act of putting the life of this innocent new born in such danger. i things in this case is due to adolscent age and the boy might be in his teens too.Both gender has a fault in this act.
January 22 at 9:41am
Ama Mr Ben, yes I agree this is despicable, but if you wait for others before you speak using words to express how you feel from your heart as opposed to your head then it becomes biased. @Alex I have always known life starts with 2 people coming together and deeply involved in the act of copulation. There is no child without the Man's sperm and the woman cooperating with the Man. I am just wondering if it would be fair to totally eliminate the "seed source" in this case the Man. Men are responsible for providing finance for the home, whilst women are mainly in charge in the upbringing of a child. I am sure both are not interested in that responsibility just yet. How does one shift blame to one party?
January 22 at 11:22am
Emmanuel But Woman carries the major blame in such situation. How can carry pregnancy for nine solid month with hard labor at end u abadon the child, that despicable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!haba
January 22 at 11:32am
Sandra @ Ama… the fact of the matter is that it takes two to tango and for some reason, the responsibility of raising a child has fallen solely upon the young teenagers (who shouldn’t be having sex in the first place) but the boys (fathers) go scot free. Maybe the girls are getting tired of the deals that they are getting. Let the police start looking for the fathers of abandoned children… yes
January 22 at 11:33am
Emmanuel I think is only heartless human being is capable of doing such. I don't see any blame of the man in some cases he might be unaware of the pregnancy
January 22 at 11:35am
Sandra This is why we are raising a bunch of irresponsible young men in and out of the church, who do not have a sense of responsibility or accountability, they think they can just have careless sex and not pay the price for it.... The police should start looking for the fathers...
January 22 at 11:35am
Emmanuel why sandra?
January 22 at 11:37am
Sandra @ Emmanual........ and how many mennnnnnnnnnnnnnn know that it is their children and deny them? Thousands! Please let us not get holier than thou here... I am a minister and I see this all the time. You have unprotected and non-marital sex and produce a child, take care of him/her........... Not the state, not your parents or your grand-parents. It is your SOLE responsibility.
January 22 at 11:37am
Sandra @ Emmanuel.......... are you seriously asking why Sandra? What part is not clear so that I can elaborate and bring about clarity
January 22 at 11:38am
January 22 at 11:38am
Emmanuel am not saying that men got no role to play, but under no circummstances does the girl have to abandone her child like that. She got nine good month to clear whatever problems she had with the boy that impregnated her i.e is if she has any
January 22 at 11:43am
Ama Mr Uchonnu I agree with you it is so wicked for any woman to abandon her child after such long process of pregnancy. I respect her for taking that decision to carry the child but where she went wrong was abadoning the child afterwards. The Mother clearly knows others would look after her child in a system where there are laws and provision for such act of wickedness. However, where is the father in all of this. He also should be brought into the picture. I am sure that Man knew about the pregnancy but denied or asked her to terminate the pregnancy. How do we know it is a teenage father responsible for the pregnancy. I have seen adults and even married men act like the teenager we are all trying to picture here. A teenage boy would be excited most times to father his child whilst a Man who has a wife is likely to deny such pregnancy.
January 22 at 11:43am
Emmanuel who told you atenage boy will be excited that is going to be a father?except one who is not ambitious
January 22 at 11:46am
Ama Emmanuel a teenager is at the age of trying out new adventures. The only time I see such young men doing it differently is when peers and family sounds warning on what they are likely to miss from such act of taking responsibility.
January 22 at 11:50am
Emmanuel and fathering a child is a new adventures abi?
January 22 at 11:55am
Ama Adventure is what it says " An unusual, Exciting, and daring experience. A young Man who has never been to the labour ward or seen a child coming forth from a woman is likely to call this an adventure. I find teenagers hate to be called so and want to act the path of adults. He would gladly jump at the opportunity for such who wants the life of adulthood in his teenage years.
January 22 at 12:01pm
Emmanuel are sur ama?
January 22 at 12:04pm · Like
Emmanuel I mean are you sure?
January 22 at 12:05pm
Sandra @ Emmanual/ Ama.............. are you serious about 'new adventure'? Let young boys (not men) keep their adventure in their pants...........
January 22 at 12:29pm ·
Emmanuel Tell ama 4 me o
January 22 at 12:36pm ·
Emmanuel you know this youthful exhorbirant of thing, they are eager to prctice what they watch in movies.
January 22 at 12:39pm
Ama @ Sandra I wish it were possible to keep adventure zipped completely in a pair of pants, but then again is no-longer adventure. Adventure is not for cowards and keeping it solely locked up in a pair of pants is the norm for people who understand it is not just right to get involved in those actions likely to present one with the responsibility of a married couple especially when still a teenager. Cowards play it safe and wait until when it is just about time. Teenagers hate to follow the path of cowardice especially at that age where they need and have to prove a point. As a matter of fact any parent wanting to have a good relationship with their teenage child should start working on them just before they reach the teen period. You need to make them your friend, educate them of certain actions and their likely consequences. It is amazing how most kids tend to change when they get to this stage. One begins to wonder if the developmental changes going on in their bodies are responsible for that shift in a normal expected routine.
January 22 at 9:56pm ·
Roseline It well seems that masturbation,contraceptives,abstinence,preservatives aren't helping matters meaning we are left with the option of self will,discipline and tolerance,what that woman did was despicable and a shame to the woman generation,but there is a saying that goes that prevention is better than cure,what lead to her pregnancy could have been avoided,but the reason for abandoning that child we can not tell,which could be lack of finance,either she was raped and did not want to keep the child of a rapist or it is either fear of her parents disowning her and the child,or her being considered as a taboo to humanity,or a disgrace which i must say is no excuse whatsoever for her abandoning that child,but the bone of contention here is who is to be blamed???the root of this problem starts with an action of agreement which may be based on pressure for sustainment of the rship,as we know that a woman says i want a rship without sex,and the guy say sure i love u,i will wait for you,as time goes the guy pressures the girl,she says am afraid i may get pregnant,the guy says no you wont there are condoms,so nothing would happened,this is reality!on the other hand when a mistake occurs and she gets pregnant,she informs the guy,the guy suddenly realises that i dont have money,i need to finish my school,i need to find a job,this and that,of course the girl may not want to abort with the fear of damaging her womb,but at the beginning the girl had a choice of working away if she was ready to stick to her conditions of having a rship with the guy which is the hardest part,she is afraid of losing the guy,all in the name of LOVE!at a teenager age your level of sexual activity increase,at that time your hormones flows like wild fire,and a teenager mistakes this to be love,and this point a teenager would want to explore without thinking of the consequences!the feeling of course is beautiful but the result is outrageous!its unfortunate that we can not control the secretion of our hormones,but we definitely can control our desires,this is self control,a girl and a boy undergoes certain changes in their body,weird feelings arise and they dont understand what is going on in their bodies,they ask their parents,what is happening the parents deviate from the question with the fear that it may create a negative effect on the child,which is wrong!we can not guarantee the fact that a child with a good home training would also make a mistake of impregnating a girl,so both parents,men,women we all share in the responsibilities of the mistakes we make we i must say can not be avoided,but left in the hands of our self disciplin and control.
January 22 at 10:35pm ·
Chris Ben Hello Guys, Nice contributions - To answer the first question, thats the case here right? As for the second question well a lot of people are to blame. It would be nice if we all stepped out of our "jimmy choos" (shoes) and ask ourselves what the root cause of the problem is. The reasons behind teenage pregnancy would vary from country to country, the demographics on the other hand are similar. Teenage parents are mostly from poor families, as such they lack the basic parental and societal guidance about methods of birth control, in fact many pregnant teenagers do not have any cognition of the central facts of sexuality and that is the bane of this problem. Lets start from africa, how many parents discuss safe sex education and methods of birth control with their children from an early age? The typical Nigerian mother while bathing her child would be ready to explain any part of the body and what it does to her child but the minute the child's hand goes to the crotch region the mother would smack it away and say "if I see your hand there again" This is sad but true, sex is shrouded in too much of a mystery and if we are to deal with this issue the first buck stops at the door of the parents. We all are to blame for this young girl abandoning her child because we have failed to successfully imbibe in our children the tools they would need to survive in the harsh harsh world we live in. Knowledge is power and how many of us would sit that niece down to say hey look this is what it is and this is what it is not, if you must do it then use this and use that , if you ever find yourself in a situation where you did not use a condom then get this over the counter. KNOWLEDGE is the only way to combat this problem because like they say you kill a dragon when it is young, and these drives and campaigns should be focused mainly on the female children because they have a lot more to loose. Once the girl gets pregnant then the debate about who to blame and who not to blame or who should be held responsible should be thrown out of the window, we must focus ourselves on how to help those who have fallen prey to it. The society has to come up with ways to take care of these teenage mothers and the babies because if you do not stem the tide, that young baby girl might just be the next teenage mother out of neglect.
January 22 at 11:42pm ·
Ama @Roseline you could not have understood and expressed it better asking for the attention of basic values and virtues one needs to succeed in life. They are not far-fetched; Self-control, discipline and tolerance. Now we are talking serious business and could be seen as crude and old -fashioned. That is the solution. How do you acquire and practice them is a new beginning. It requires renewing of one's mind of these virtues on a daily basis.Those who have made it habitual hardly loose sleep. Friends, can you imagine what that Teenage girl, the father, mother and boy-friend are going through right now. They all need to have done it right from the start. However, they all have missed the way. How does one react to those victims is another topic for debate. please go to this link and read what you see as it is a true life story.http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/2010/12/why-is-lion-not-shutting-up.html
January 23 at 11:56am ·
Food For Thought:
When one is between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea, One finds the answer most think is taking off as the teenager did in this scenario. One has to understand what is going on in her mind as opposed to her head this time. One knows a little innocent child, her blood and a part of a teenager have been forgotten in a maternity ward. One respects the commitment to have the child in the first place, but did she know she was pregnant. What life is she hoping to get afterwards? I mean the teenage girl has left behind a part of her in a distant land. It is surprising that "after all this" it is possible to start life fully again, but making up one's will never to tow that track "come rain, come sunshine". It is not an easy decision once you have eaten the forbidden fruit. It leaves a sour taste in the mouth of the victim and many others whom are affected by the decision, to disobey. Onlookers are not left behind who spread distressing news by managing another "Wikileaks" company. Thankfully, "Man should not be afraid to start life having reached the end."
12 minutes ago ·
Ama
This is another hot matter trying to make out in our heads what could have happened here. One can only learn from this before it knocks at your door claiming another teenage daughter in your home. Now is the time to get your teenage children to be your friend and do not compete with them.
We have all linked our ideas across the globe with words, reaffirming what we believe in by our level of faith and of course asking in unison for a certain path to be towed by young teenagers based on ones' culture. One is not wrong when one states clearly what links us across the globe is our "words, faith and culture." See you same time next week on QUEEN AMA'S FOOD FOR THOUGHT.
12 minutes ago ·
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