- Stephen
Hello Ama, I have always had this issue to discuss with you, but have been very busy. This issue is about marriage, I have a girlfriend whom I proposed marriage to, but I have a problem with her. Though she imformed me before that she had this "toilet disease" she contacted whilst in NYSC camp, I thought it was something that will heal if drugs are used, I even took her to the hospital myself and paid for the drugs, but still the disease has not gone. She is always downcast because of it and is making her loose her confidence on us getting married. I love her and have prayed immersely for God to heal her.
However, I am getting confused because of my former girlfriend; we grew up together, and our families are close; she just came back from UK and has been mounting immerse pressure on me to discuss marriage with her, am skeptical about her because she already had a male child before she traveled to the UK and I dont want my home to be built around such person because I had that type of experience in my own family when my dad remarried. Please kindly offer your advice.
June 24Ama Kachikwu
Dear Stephen,
What can I say, but recognize the fact I am fortunate to learn from and read about a Man who truly loves a woman unconditionally.
It is quite clear you have made the choice of "love against all odds". You already applying the terms and conditions of marriage vows read out by a Marriage minister to couples in the excitement of becoming one.
Your partner to be is suffering from guilt and probably feeling she is not worthy of your true Love. I am pleased you understand the "power of prayer". You should browse through the scripture on healing in the bible. Most people were healed "on account of their faith". It is quite clear and above all, your first prayer point for the woman you love so much should be re-phrased, " My Father in heaven, please let my wife have faith in you to heal her of her toilet disease".
Two good heads are better than one only if both are willing to walk together in the same direction and not in the opposite direction.
Patience is a key attribute required in marriage and in relationships. It is quite clear you need it in fully engaging would be mother of your children. Toilet disease cannot prevent this from happening only if she would believe and live each day trusting in GOD and you as her husband.
Confusion should not arise when an imperfect situation arises like yours only if you are a true believer of GOD. You would understand GOD works from imperfection to perfection.
Your former girlfriend should not mount pressure on you if its truly GOD's will that you both be married. What an irony, in-spite of your wife to be toilet disease you love her so much and praying for GOD to heal her of that infection tormenting her so much. You prefer and love a woman who has a toilet infection capable of bearing kids than one mounting pressure on you to make marriage proposal.
Who do you truly love if not your wife to be who I also believe is your wife and who feels so guilty about her imperfection. The other woman in question cannot leverage on close family ties and a past relationship which are not the basic building blocks for a long lasting relationship.
Who do you truly love, if may I ask ? Why are you praying intensely for one woman to get healing? Why is the woman feeling miserable about her situation? Why is your ex-girlfriend in the picture all of a sudden? Do you think your ex-girlfriend mounting pressure on you would be a convenient escape route to say good-bye to a woman you love who will eventually be healed of her toilet disease?
Thanks for reaching out with your problem and having a piece of Queen Ama's Food to think deeply.
All My Love,
Queen Ama
SundayAma Kachikwu
Hello Stephen,
I publish real life experiences and solutions.
I hope you do not mind that I do so.
I have not seen any person who was able to Love, forgive, tolerate and have a long-lasting purposeful marriage who did not need Grace from GOD to do according to his means and even beyond his means.
Confusion only arises in the things pertaining to the devil especially when counsel comes from him.
It is only through pain we mature, and most times get salvation which never leads to regret.
The easiest route is not the best solution.
Marriage is a sweet experience only if we are with our soul-mate given to us by GOD.
How do you know your soul mate when they arrive?
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