TRUMPY: THE MIGHTY FALL OF A GREAT KING AROUND THE CORNER

RESTORING PARLIAMENTARY SOVEREIGNTY AND OTHERS

I visited UK parliament yesterday after being invited for talks and a tour too. I must confess that United Kingdom is one of the greatest nations in this world. I am not making this assertion to get you carried away or lose focus on what you are already and destined to become. United Kingdom has a role to maintain peace across the globe. What is peace? Some say it is silence, others say it is happiness, but peace means just one thing for this kingdom and their mission. I have found that other nations fighting this kingdom directly or indirectly are faced with storms sometimes called hurricane. I have asked time and number the reason GOD came down here. The world would soon know the WHY’s. The world would soon know the HOW’s The world would soon know the WHEN’s. BREXIT was a defining moment for the Journey to Greatness. A global role that requires patience, focus and understanding. A pleasant surprise and newness for higher grounds. YESHUA says a man who is blessed by GOD cannot be cursed by anyone. They must work with you or lose out and the end would justify it all. I agree that a lot has happened to us over many years but we have grown and developed remarkably as a result. We are not looking back at our pains, sorrows inflicted purposely to deter us from moving forward and to make us fear from holding our NAME. RESPECT is just one thing and would use it here. RESILIENCE, EVOLUTION, SALVATION, PURPOSE, EVALUATION, CENTER AND TRUTH. IS IT THE END? It is time to quit worrying about everything…………. Stop thinking of what may happen. It is not the end yet! Begin the Ultimate Journey to Greatness and leave a lasting Legacy. A divorce between SOUL MATES is never easy if they were truly soul mates. When the law of specificity was revealed to me in this kingdom I knew it was for a unique mission. Please, read page 244, chapter 46 of ULTIMATE JOURNEY TO GREATNESS. Queen Elizabeth is a humble woman who knows how to gather and unite. Royalty does not come cheap anymore for those ready to leave a footprint that is Generational. House of Lords and House of Commons is a prestigious ground for the best and like mind. I am satisfied with the quality and result the UK parliamentary system has delivered so far. I would want to see the House of Commons renovated to an acceptable standard. I received great signs as I walked out of the parliamentary door and showers of assurance from the clouds. It is still raining but it is not just rain. You are a blessed KINGDOM and many know indeed you are blessed. I love you all, Queen Ama Welcome to Queen Ama's artistry world of contemporary thinking, spirituality, miracles, purpose, passion, greatness, success, political analysis and her infectious love of life and love.

EIGHT DAYS BEFORE BRITAIN'S GENERAL ELECTION 2017

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QUEEN AMA SPEAKS: DONALD J TRUMP ELECTION VICTORY

Dearest, Donald J Trump

I congratulate you on this unusual victory. You have a duty to bring the people of America together by abiding to the will of heaven and nothingelse. I want you to ensure leadership continuity and work with the present administration too. It has been a very long walk for you during this election. You must contain unnecessary emotions that can steer you away from your path of true glory. You have been given a second chance in life to get every area of your life right and may this flow out to bless the people of America and the rest part of the world.

I want to thank President Barack Hussein Obama and his team for the hardwork during this election to pass the barton for the next level of leadership. You can prepare the path for successorship but you cannot choose your successor.

A excerpt from Ultimate Journey to Greatness reads:

"Elisha tried to strike the same water with the mantle he got from Elijah; It did not work for him".

I want to thank Senator Hilary Clinton for her hardwork during this election too. I wish you and President Bill Clinton a happy restful honeymoon together in love and understanding.

I love you all,

Queen Ama


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AMERICA: UNFULFILLED BUT HOPE UNDENIABLE- NEW WORLD ORDER

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America I woke up this morning crying so much because I love you despite your weaknesses as a Nation. Greatness is turning nothing into something.

Greatness is about having values and principles that takes you a longway during trying times.

Planning is part of life but the ego of man means nobody ever plans to fail.

You could have it all figured out but sometimes humility plays a big role in accessing the will of heaven.

I remember many years ago when I had an ailment where nobody could help me and not even the most powerful man politically President Barack Hussein Obama with all due respect.

I knew it was a matter of life and death. Life for my principles and values as a woman who wanted to grow, become someone and live for my purpose. I prayed earnestly in my heart asking for solutions to my problems. I was like Hannah in the bible that had no son and wanted one because my competitor down the line had one and was taunting me with it. 

I told God if he healed me I would draw and bring many people close to him. It surely happened where the Holy Spirit was released on me in a powerful way here in London and this steered the world in a different light.

I wrote a book Ultimate Journey to Greatness, which changed the world’s mentality within that period. I saw how this book had inspired many who had access to it before its publication.

We watched a peaceful transition from PDP Government in Nigeria to APC broom change with Sir Buhara now the flag bearer.

I watched a Prime Minister David Cameron humbly adopt change and many thought he was foolish.  I saw many other leaders adapt to change and the impactful results too. It was the Holy Spirit at work to our wildest imagination. I saw the impact of this change across the Atlantic, many waters, many seas, dry lands, fruitful deserts and new discoveries.

New words were constantly added to our vocabulary like specificity and many others. People began to seek direction on ways to do things to arrive at a destination.

Why did the spirit of God move over the surface of murky waters if not for change? I asked for the same spirit to make impactful change at the age of 33 which  I gave for free at no cost. I worked like a slave in a cubicle here in London watching helicopters, planes and jets of different dimensions encircling my environment. 

I lived in a shit hole here in London to steer the world to that place.  This is the office I seat to direct world affairs. I prayed for so many families to be reunited again in love and they arrived there. I had no luxury attached to me. I had no chef, car, driver, gardener, cleaner or security.  I remember a billionaire pastor mocking me in his congregation about my poverty situation here in London. I still have no house bought in my name and live in my sister’s house but am grateful that I have somewhere to sleep.

I saw many vulnerable people who needed help, were hungry and had lost hope. I wanted them to access the same benefits as the few elites across the globe. It sure is happening to the grace of GOD.

We are hopeful and gradually seeing balanced development across the globe.

Heaven has come closer to us as we become people of true value and not just saying it.

We are hopeful and seeing more loving families. Most importantly, for visionaries to marry their true wives and make the world a better place.

I watched the audacity of hope in action where a black man from nothing climbed and became something.

This hope became a wildfire and attracted a new journey of purpose called Ultimate Journey to Greatness.

We are seeing Leadership in a different light which is like servanthood.

I have learnt feminity goes a longway for a real woman to access the gates of heaven. God can turnaround your nakedness into global color. He can use you regardless of your skin color to bring a people together. It does not matter if you are black or white. It is the blood and spirit flowing through you as a people and a race.

A man who wants to access heaven must also humble himself and even cry sometimes like a woman. A woman who wants to access heaven cannot be equal to  a man and must humble herself too.

My heart was so heavy this morning because it is the situation of the American people. I was crying so much today and could hear heaven say to me many accessed life following the easiest way out but arrived there and became unfulfilled. Many are struggling to undo this situation and become part of a new world order.

Hope is unending and light is the result which cannot be quenched if you have understood your mission as a people.

United Kingdom is on this part to understand their specific mission attached to their name too. 

I was grieved by the way MP Joe Cox was murdered in cold blood for the sake of Brexit and our negligience too. Our excitement got the better part of us without coherence and understanding.

I am glad Brendad Cox is actively pursuing the dream of his wife to eradicate the disease of hate.  Hate is still very much present in our society and speaking about it is not where it ends too.

We sometimes plan for successorship but it happens in way we cannot even understand it. 

There is so much uncertainty around the world for people who have not accepted their true purpose in life and would look next door to access it. It all lies within you and nobody can help you access it better if you understood your mission.

I am not a greedy world leader of leaders and have not asked for the whole world although it belongs to me. I looked at my HSBC account on Friday, 4th November 2016 this morning and it had a few pounds to just eat . I have been in this situation of servanthood for many years whilst others parade themselves to be what they are not causing trouble across the globe. I have helped so many people arrive at a destination but sometimes they even abuse me. I have been blocked in so many ways right from the time I wanted to start my talk show titled, Queen Ama’s Food For Thought. I have helped google but no payment ever came to me. I have helped facebook too in many ways as well. I remember working in CNN here in London but racism would not allow them  develop a person to the point where it would now benefit everyone to the glory of GOD. Today, most of their presenters get their statements, energy and presenting style from me, but I wish they truly saw the future.

It has been one exchange or the other to the point of world leader of leaders where my book publication Ultimate Journey to Greatness was removed because of envy and nothing else.

 I am just wondering if peace can truly reign in a beautiful world given to us freely by GOD for nothing. Assuming GOD was greedy he would have kept everything to himself and not even created man in the first place. We all need each other but most of our associations are from a place of greed and the urgency of now. We keep disturbing GOD with our prayers that are meaningless because we are not people of principle. The 10 commandments was given to a people because they were principles given to them to help them see in times of trouble, and happiness.

I am still crying as my writing this to all of you but there are many rainy days ahead of you as you become your original and seek value within

I love you all,

Yeshua

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WHY THE HATE?

I know sometimes we have an eye on another man's role but ask him what he goes through on a daily basis. The glitz and glamour around a role is not what you look at when seeking to become something in life.


I want you to focus on your core skills and stop trying to do everything yourself. Sometimes, your level of suffering can make you distrust many things. I have seen many wonders that I cannot begin to explain, but prayer does work. People should be allowed to speak into their lives and believing they have not come into this world on their own.


When you are fortunate to have a Leader who understands the times do not abuse the priviledge. Leadership is for a purpose. A Nation can get it wrong by allowing someone who should not have began to start in the first place.


We must all learn to be part of each other's welfare. It is unfair to make the work of leadership so difficult by blaming them for everything.



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TIMELESS LEADERSHIP

FREEDOM AND CAPACITY

Donald Trump is a great business man who has seen his business thrive.
Effective policies and sizeable opportunities with remarkable results from current leadership. When looking at timeless political Leadership we are talking:

1: Community Gatekeeper
2. Servant 
3. Patriotism 
4. People Gatherer
5. Voice
6. Personal Story - Preparation
7. Charisma
8. Rare talent
9 . Signs
10. Appointed time
11. Change

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Damn Your Principles: Stick to Your Party!

QUEEN AMA'S DEBATE

There are no true friends in politics. According to (Alan Clark-19288-99); "they are all sharks circling, and waiting, for traces of blood to appear in the water". A young man or woman with a family going for political post should get their objectives right from the start. I can confirm that if one is going there to eat, one day they will surely eat one too. Disgrace and massacre will be ones surname afterwards, when in a position to effect change just do.

Ones girlfriends and concubines, sycophants worshipping one because of power will leave one for the next powerful person in office after one is defeated. The prostitution around power does not stop. It is totally hopeless. One has to understand one is there to serve the masses. One person raining abuses and curses on one is enough to send one to the underworld with no hope of return. Now multiply one curse by the total population of Nigeria, My goodness not healthy for business. "One can say Politics is not the art of the possible".

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  Commentator 1

Tony

      Good job Ama K but i have a few remarks to make. In politics, there is no permanent friend, no permanent enemy. The only thing that is permanent is INTEREST! This is fundamental and perhaps, accounts for why friends fight n kill for sake of power.....for the prostitutes, the only thing that is permanent is also interest which is pecuniary gains. My advice is, know thyself" I will strongly, recomend THE PRINCE by Nicholo MAchiavelli for anybody considering politics in Nigeria. The Nigerian political environment seem to favour Machiavellian principles of politics. Meanwhile, the book itself was written centuries ago. The reality is that those who do not accept, end up grieve and agony. It is better to stay away if you are not prepared. To the Politicians, i will not moralise, play d politics, outsmart your colleagues, spend money but know that it is better and safer to stay on the side of the massess. Do not think about today alone but ensure dat u will be remembered for something great. One of such leaders that have emerged in contemporary Nigeria appears to be Donald Duke and a couple of others. off course if we talk about free education in the West, reference will always be made to Obafemi Awolowo, and many others. To be continued.....
January 8 at 9:05pm · Like

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Nathaniel

The man niccolo machiavelli and the political ideologies he espoused are as controversial as the title of the book itself "the prince" so has controversy trailed those who wholesomely or with adept modification practiced his theories - Napolion bonappat, Adolfo hitler, Stalin, Daniel Ortega, Robert Mugabe, Ibrahim badamosi babangida, sanni abacha (pardon his lack of prowess and craft) and on and on and on....

The term "prince" is so vastly used that it contradicts its self, and no word has been so used and abused that its meaning or connotation becomes ambiguous in form. In Nigeria as well, politics whether it be schooled in machiavelli or any other contemporary discipline, is so controversial that it contradicts it's meaning and form. A politician should be and is a messenger and representative of the constituency that voted him on one hand, and a representative of the state on the other hand. But in Nigeria and most of the third world selfish interest, to further qualify Tony's contribution dictates the modus operandi and the platform on which political transitions are espoused. The representative of the state rapes the state and loots it's treasury, and the messenger of the constituency is PRINCE over the master depriving him of any returns and denying him access to the shared wealth with all impunity and alacrity. However the "temporarity" of the political office, the insatiability of the quest to acquire, and the folly of heaping up ill gotten riches for termites and cankerworms in themselves deprives the political prince any claim to craft, intelligence or common sense. The Nigerian situation is further compounded by the seemingly unholy unity between north and south, the moral depravity to which poverty either of resources or of intellect and of common sense has espoused many a politician. For the man who steals public fund to build a mansion in the choicest corner of the city is poor in conscience, and a greater poverty that could be for if i be poor of resources by providence or hardworking I can recreate my situation, but if I am poor of morality and conscience where lies my ability to turn my self around. What you have is a winding cycle of poverty, the politician - of morality and conscience, the prostitute - of shame and materiality, the constituency - of materiality and self will to rise up and say enough is enough.
January 8 at 10:25pm · Like · 1 person


Commentator 1

Tony

@Nathaniel, i am impressed by your knowledge and interest over the Nigerian political environment. You talked about about the raison d'etat of Politics/leadership and the situation on ground. But i will encourage you to embrace political realism rather than political idealism. The situation will to a large extent remain d same so far "humaan nature" is the same and does not change. For better insight on this, i will recoment the book - "LEVIATHAN" Authored by a great man - Thomos Hobbes. This book was also written in 1651 (centuries ago). Those who fail to accept political realism only end up in grief and agony.

The difference between our situation and that of the West is the SYSTEM. Their system makes it difficult for them to exhibit their animalsitic tendencies. But believe me, human nature is same. Men are brutal, wicked, feikel. The system- law, religion, society, amongst others helps tame these tendencies in man....it does not matter wether you are white or black. Human being is a human being irrespective of age sex or race. This idea as espoused by Hobbes in 1651 is still valid as human nature cannot change. On the part of the current Nigerian political situation, i will conclude as follows: ALL POWERS BELONG TO GOD AND GIVES POWER.....BUT IN OUR OWN REALM AS HUMANS, NOBODY GIVES POWER OR SHOULD I SAY GOD CANNOT COME HIMSELF TO GIVE YOU POWER. THEREFORE, YOU MUST TAKE IT BY ALL MEANS NECESSARY!!

Like i have always argued, Does Lion ask for permission to take his meal?? NO! So it is should be for you if you really want to make a change.....let us come out of our shell and STOP blaming others for our situation because it will NOT change unless we are ready to change it or accept it the way it is.
‎Sunday at 9:31am · Like



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AMA

 Mr Obioha if I may ask where you are based   currently? I agree with Tony on your vast knowledge around politics.

Sunday at 9:33am · Like

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Roseline

well i must say this topic politics is like an unending circle of questions about what it truly is,each person has their view of what politics is,u guys have stated from both the ideological and realistic point of view,but the real question is if you where in politics what would u have done???its so quick for us to pass judgements on those who practice politics,we say i would have done this,i will have done that!would u actually have done what u think u would do if you were there????it is only a person who has taken part in politics that can really say what politics is all about,if we should face the truth,if we where to have all the financial resources at our disposal,what would we do?a human being would think first of solving his or her personal problems,even before thinking about helping his or her country,because people would want to save themselves before saving their country,do u really think that people would even think twice when it comes to saving their country instead of themselves?????the bone of contention here is that everyone is selfish in one way or the other,selfishness,greed is like a reflection of politics,which u can not seperate!power on the other hand only comes when u have the money to shut up all the holigans, bandits,prostitutes,assassins,no one would have the guts to stand up and say enough is enough!because they are afraid for their lifes,like the saying goes money talks and bullshit works!politics is a disease and the only antidote to it is GOD!because the people in politics are human beings which were created by God himself,because practically speaking no human has the solution to politics,because we are all greedy!lolzzzz.......
Sunday at 3:01pm · Like · 1 person

 
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Nathaniel

Roseline thanks for sharing your views, but I will like to make the following declarations and allow everyone to challenge: (1) politics by itself is not a dirty game, it can be as clean as being a director of a company. There are directors who deliver to the company and to employees and without stealing company's fund. (2) people with integrity will do what they say they will do, so lack of integrity of the generality does not necessarily mean mean are without integrity by nature. (3) I disagree with the generalization that everyone is selfish, there are some political leaders in Nigeria that have shown selfless service, selfishness is a moral weakness it is not hard wired in humans, (4) abuse of power is a human defensive mechanism for insecurity, lower self esteem and fear, and people based on moral grounding, exposure, education and principles react to those differently. That Nigerian politicians failed does not make politics a bad thing...thanks for contributing to the debate. Please don't take my response as shutting you up, am only challenging some of the assumptions you made, cause assumptions if not challenged become theory, theories become practice, practice become precedence, precedence become culture.....and culture unlike the rest is as hard as BRICK WALL.
Sunday at 4:03pm · Like

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AMA

Roseline, I agree with you. That instrument called power has proven to be a demon overtime and not everyone does a good job of handling it without making a mess of themselves. However, that does not mean people cannot criticise the evils around it, probably one or 2 governments will hear the voice of the youth through this forum. Guys go ahead and empty your thoughts.
Sunday at 6:11pm · Like

Tony

Commentator 1

@Roseline, considering the soci-political environment of Russia where you wrote from, you are definitely on point. Your comment is clearly in line with a typical political situation in real life. If you ask me, the only difference is that in some places or parts of the world, the SYSTEM helps tame/curtail the actions of men. Will elaborate on this point below while responding to Nathaniel. @Ama, i agree with you that we cannot say because it is so then let’s stop critiquing the evil actions of men. No we must continue to discuss and condem such actions by every means necessary. @Obioha, i will take the issues you raised one after the other. For No.(1) above, the question of politics being a dirty game is highly subjective. You need to expansiate on that............ However, i find your points No. (2), (3) and (4) as largely faulty. The ideas you have expressed seem to be valid only in the world of Political Idealism. It shows lack of understanding of the Human nature and ideas espoused by Thomos Hobbes in LEVIATHAN written in 1651. Human nature is the same today tommorow and forever. Thank God for religion, law and other mechanisms in the society that helps tame/curtail the evil that man do. Human Nature has been the same from the time of Adam and Eve, Adolph Hitler, Bismark, Stalin, Idia Amin, Babangida, Abacha, you can go on and on. Throughput, human history, man have showed its true colours in terms of wickedness to fellow men. From the Renaissance period to Reformation down to industrial Age and scramble for Africa, the situation has not changed. So to think it will change in 2011 is only but a mirage and an argument for the young minds in political theory n statecraft. @Ama, i know you are always interested in SOLUTION and how the society can be left better than we met it. I am sure; the historical approach i have taken above will give an insight and direction in terms of solution. My RECOMMENDATION and what appears to be a SOLUTION based on my knowledge of world history is that - (A) we should not try to think that human nature has changed or will someday change. Therefore, efforts should be on getting new mechanisms that will tame man and to strengthen existing ones. Emphasis should be given on aspects of religion (- Christianity, Islam, etc) that is against such selfish tendencies in man. (B), Strengthen existing laws and its enforcement. Though, man will at its convenient disobey laws to make room for their selfish interests but it is better to be there than nothing. (C), we should expose, speak against evil works and codem them in strong terms. The embarrassment that follows to the family and the person in question will help to some extent. (D) Like they in Psychology, whose OX or OXEN have we not stolen or attempted t steal?? It is also possible to talk about the Id, ego and super ego...which means all humans have same tendency, it is a matter of opportunity and exposure. Realising, that it is so, will help us to encourage them in a way that they will make huge efforts to desist from such acts. However, my position is that Not all shall follow dis last solution as others will be on the aggressive side. Putting pressure. I could go on and on, on this matter, but i am sure the points above will illuminate this very important issue. God bless you all....
Sunday at 7:11pm · Unlike · 1 person

Commentator 3

Roseline

  This has become truly an intellectual debate. @Tony, i agree with your points and have been informed by your comment. I am sure others have benefited from this. @Ama, thank you for providing the platform for discussions and it is my hope that our ideas will make a change in our society someday.
Sunday at 8:06pm · Unlike · 2 people

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Nathaniel

   Thanks all for your contributions. I do not however   subscribe
to theories that contradict the ability of humans to change the status quo, recreate them and change their environment, for if that be the case we are one and all but doomed. But history stands clear that the contrary, which is the position I deposed is the case. Restated for clarity - people with integrity will do what they say they will do irrespective of pressure, reason why religion, morality and law are all mechanisms for change, (2) power is a defensive mechanism, abuse of power is an absolute defence to shield insecurity and fear within, (3) selfishness is a moral weakness, for there are people who have learnt the strength to serve selflessly, and finally politics is not dirty in nature, people make it so....I won't blow my trumpet or address Tony's insinuations of lack of understanding of human nature for Leviathan's theory is not sacrosanct neither a universal law but only a proposition with tens and thousands of contrary views.
Sunday at 11:02pm · Like



Commentator 4

BEN

Not much to say here I hate it when I agree with tony!
Sunday at 11:24pm · Like  2 people

Commentator 4

BEN

I do not buy the whole God gave us bad leaders hogwash, Nigerians are not rascals they are just unfortunate, unfortunate to find themselves in a contraption that hinders development. Its easy to stay on this page and call the masses political prostitutes but poverty is not the only problem wrong with Nigeria. Take a brief survey and ask people why they want GEJ back, tribalism and the silly notion that he is God sent is what filled my survey. Every Nigerian is fundamentally flawed naturally and cognitive dissonance means we will always follow the path of least resistance.
Sunday at 11:57pm · Like · 2 people

Commentator 5

Sleekkilla' Gold

 I agree with Nathaniel...Niccolo Machiavelli wrote his famous dissertation on power, The Prince, in 1517. Machiavelli was only interested in directly discussing the elements of power. Nigerian politicians are Africa's shame, and they are a disgrace to politicians the world over of which they are no part of (i have no apologies). As for the masses who are political prostitutes, blame it on poverty. Its not as if they dont know d right thing to do. They say Italians are rascals, but if Napoleon and Leopold were alive, they would know there are are people who have surpassed Italians in rascality..NIGERIANS! Methink God gave African bad leaders, and gave the western world natural disasters to balance everything cus African will never be able to handle natural disasters. The police and Nepa will add to casualty (it’s my own personal opinion). Governing Nigerians is not impossible, it’s merely useless. Every Nigerian is crooked, EVEN YOU!
Sunday at 11:43pm · Unlike ·

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Sleekkilla' Gold

‎ @ Ogo/ i mentioned rascality because;   Nigeria can only be turned around by a dictator. (i can hear u screaming blue murder!) Now, what do u call someone who can’t even obey traffic light or who dump waste on the streets? i don’t know another word to describe such people. i called the masses political prostitutes because they support whoever impress them most which speech or shares some stolen money around. Note, only those who have stolen have money for politics. Nigeria is cursed by the riches (oil), under her feet. It’s a cold turkey
Monday at 12:04am · Like

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Ben

Again I beg to differ; we all know the story of Nigerians pushing and shoving at murtala mohammed airport and when they get to Heathrow they all enter into the queue and behave themselves. If you are born into a society that has no respect for rules you would inevitably do things that way. For instance people driving in Lagos can attest that things have changed in recent years on the road. What I am saying is people respect a system, human beings like to imitate. IF you go into a gathering that is orderly and peaceful you would find yourself making the effort to conform. The solution to Nigeria's problems do not lie in a Dictator, it is certainly too complex for a dictator to solve, he might succeed in suppressing but certainly not solving the problem
Monday at 1:15am · Like · 1 person

Commentator 5

Sleekkilla' Gold

 Well, u have a point. i like the part where u said ''If you are born into a society that has no respect for rules you would inevitably do things that way.'' And that’s why we can adapt to any form of treatment and injustice. We are just a natural survivor.
Monday at 1:20am · Like

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AMA

 Kingzley what you have learned overtime is what you    become and that is culture.
Monday at 5:48am · Like



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Sleekkilla' Gold

‎ @ Ama/ i agree with you guys, on that. But have we bothered to ask why Nigerians abide to law in other countries? It’s simply because they want to survive, and make a living. Nigerians are naturally stubborn no matter how much u guys want to argue that. The average Nigerian is a rascal.
Monday at 6:46am · Like

BEN

Nigerians obey laws in other countries because they see the citizens of that country obey the laws, the average Nigerian might be loud but certainly not a rascal.
              Monday at 5:58pm · Like

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Sleekkilla' Gold

Lol...if u say so.



Moderator 

 

AMA

 I see positivity coming out if this. Should our leaders show the right example others would follow. Imagine the president of Nigeria Goodluck Jonathan queuing to buy tickets in a local airport just before he boards the   plane or waiting for his turn in a traffic jam caused by a bad road. Now tell me which Nigerian would not follow the rules.

Commentator 1

Tony

The comments are overwhelming. Well done guys...Special thanks to Ama K
January 11 at 10:19pm · Like · 1 person



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AMA

 I can only add massive thanks at this point for all your contributions to this weekend’s hot matter on Queen  Ama's Food For Thought using facebook platform. We had 5 commentators from different parts of the world representing various cultures. The moderator was Queen Ama. What links us across the globe are our words, faith and culture. We are better off letting out steams in the use of Appropriate words and connecting with others from different parts of the world. See you same time next week. Have a fantastic week ahead.
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Queen AMA a Commentator today and not a Moderator!

 

Wande Aguloye - (Moderator)

7 out of 10 black women are single! A woman once married with kids and great income has a higher chance of getting remarried than a single woman with no kids over 30! If a woman is not married at 35 please have kids because ur chances of finding a husband and  you are his only wife are VERY SLIM! A man who loves you is worth 20 times more than a man you love! A woman who has 5 kids and yells infidelity should be taken to a psych ward!

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Commentator 1

Siti Abiola What exactly is d point here?So a mother of 5 cant condemn infidelity?My dear bro,expantiate abeg.....lolzzzz

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Wande Agunloye

‎@Siti Lol If a woman of 5 condemns infidelity and gets a divorce who will remarry her?! I'm also saying her chances of getting remarried are as good if not better than a woman well past 30 with no kids who has never been married demanding to be a 1st wife!

A man with no money and income but meets food at home and asks his wife if she is cheating on him should also be put in a psych ward if he has been in that poor state for 5 years plus with 4 kids by the same woman he is accusing!

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Agunloye Damilola Adetola  The major factor in Nig is unemployment. The unmarried females should be fervent in prayer so as 2 reduce this burden.A man that cant afford 3 square meals how do you expect hm 2 take a girl 2 the Altar.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@Aburo Exactly now at a later age when u get money most men go in 2 directions! 1. They marry a woman no more than 25 with no kids! Who does everything they say Or 2. They marry a woman once married who is FINANCIALLY ESTABLISHED with 1 or 2 kids! If she can't have kids then it opens up the opportunity to marry for the chance to have some!

Most men take option 1 if they don't have kids! Those who are interested in financially security up to a certain level take option 2! As long as they are not over 40!

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Ama Kachikwu

Wande I follow most of your political analysis but I must say your analysis on marriage is absolutely weak. Perhaps this is not an area for you to delve into. Do you think having children is the basis for marriage? Do you think money should be a basis for marriage?

Please go to my blog on http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/.

Click on "Clocking 30 but still single, Married and Miserable, Say no to cultism".

This should give you a well rounded view.

Take care

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama I WANT TO BRING U INTO THE MEN'S GROUP MEETING! DONT TALK SO THEY WONT KNOW A WOMAN IS PRESENT!
1. Out of every 10 men 7 or more expect a child from the wedlock and without one they divorce! 2. Out of 10 men over 45 financial security is their highest priority! I have seen men tell me they are marrying this woman because she has a health plan! Or she owns a home! Or she owns a business!

I have a lot of female friends who I have hooked up! They think about the same crap! MARRIAGE IS ANOTHER FORM OF SECURITY! IT IS ALSO FOR PROCREATION! There are women who would not bear a child for u till u marry them! I don't care if u gave them $250K cash! N THEY R 35 N OVER N WANT TO BE UR 1ST N ONLY WIFE! THEY WILL ABORT TILL U DO! So Ama please!

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Siti Abiola Uhmmm,so pple like me have no chance ehn?I  have 5 kids& a grandchild, i dont want 2 remarry,tell me my chances abeg...lolzzzz

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Ibrahim Jimeta Ambulum WANDE YOU HAVE COME WITH AGAIN WITH NEW DIMENSION.HOWEVER YOU ARE RIGHT...

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Siti Abiola

I have a sister(37yrs old) never been married, no kids & she's seriously looking 4 a husband. I told her 2 get pregnant & 4gt marriage unless she wants 2 settle 4 a married man or divorcee.

This is of major concern 2 me cos she's very close 2 me(we are 1st cousins).She has school certificate,very pretty but on d big side, jobless like me,(lol) what are her chances of getting married?

I already told her i'll be responsible 4 her baby if she gets pregnant, i do really care 4 her but i can't marry her,what can be done 2 help her?

I am very serious o

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Siti focus on making the money to educate ur kids n provide for ur retirement! If u have a young boyfriend put him to work day n night for his pay n keep him on a tight leash but don't get jealous if he steals a few dollars to marry some 23 year old eventually! Or get a wealthy man n have him as a husband n co-invest but always keep the bulk of ur money separate! Basically work for him for a percentage while working ur assets privately!

Under no circumstances should u be demanding to be a first wife unless he is broke with 5 kids n needs a place to stay! I think he is useless! In my personal opinion I would have the 23 year old for servicing n keep him in an apt somewhere n be a wife to a rich guy for financial reasons! Someone who has ur back!

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Ama Kachikwu

Wande, my voice is a very unique one which is heard often by those who have ears to listen.

I have reviewed all your view points and still none of them should be a good basis for going into marriage.

I see most of your male participants are Nigerians. Nigeria is a country where most are still struggling to get it right on the family level before we look at the society as a whole. Have you ever wondered why so many are struggling in the home front? Do you ever wonder why most marriages don't last? I don't care about what your male folks are saying to you? what is the proper thing to do? GOD gives security and not marriage, the best security anyone can have in life is peace.

I find that so many who have gone in for security have come out with scars and they wonder why?

Wande this is not a male political gathering. This is a topic that affects both male and female alike.

I did encourage you and male folks to review their notion on why women go into marriage or why 2 people come together to become 1.

Take care

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Abiodun Ayileka ‎@wande...U seem to me a realist, simply fact.@ siti......if u are economically sound ! then u have no problem.

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Wande Agunloye ‎@ Siti she is done just stick a fork in her! Her chances of finding a husband and she is his only wife are almost zero! Also if he does not see kids he will think she can't carry a baby full term or he has to spend money to have that happen! If she has three children and complaining about fidelity.  If she is demanding to be a 1st wife send her to the psych ward!

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Ama Kachikwu

Siti how are you? I guess you are fine from the sound of your comment.

Please let me encourage you to advice your sister to find her purpose in life. She should wait until she finds her husband. Desperation gets you nowhere but settling for less like having children deliberately out of wedlock than having them in a proper family set up.

If your sister at 37 thinks she is fit to be a mother let her go to a motherless baby home and adopt a child and look after the child. If she does not get a husband before the year runs out let her look for me and kill me. That is how sure of what I am saying.

I hope you understand?

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Wande Agunloye ‎@ Siti From that comment we need to ask AMA ARE U MARRIED?!

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Siti Abiola

My dear bro...23yrs old? I will be sued 4 cradle snatching...lolzzz..

3 of my kids are through school d last one 4 MKO is d only one left(my responsibility)as for the 5th one, his father is alive & responsible 4 him.

I cant be involved with young guys, I just dont know how do it, what 4? Old, yes.very comfortable arrangement 4 me...lol

if i do decide 2 remarry my bro, it will be 2 an old rich man with no plans 4 more kids, strictly 4 companionship.He can keep his money@least i have survived for 17yrs,

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Siti Hey different strokes for different folks! The boy has to be that young because over that age they are a nuisance n too much financial exposure! They think too much and if they are right should be dating u on their terms not yours!

However I don't think u should go that old yet! A guy 40-50 who earns is ideal! U r still in the game n making some money!

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Siti Abiola

Ama.....i don tire 4 laughter o...adopt?Will that add 2 her woes or reduce?Ur solution is far from reality...haba.

We all cant be Mrs & neither can we all be mothers.Ds is a natural fact,we can only try but what will be will be.

Her case is of great concern 2 me and i know if she is destined 2 be a mother she will be,who knows,Wande might end up becoming my in-law.....lolzzzz

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Ibrahim Jimeta Ambulum ‎@Ama Kachikwu Wandes political analysis are not very sincere, he is a very slippery character,contraversial,cantankerous and biased you are such a beautiful lady that I wouldnt want you to be taken away by WANDES POLITICAL IDEAS THAT ARE INCONSEQUENTIAL.POLITICALLY I BEG YOU AMA KACHIKWU TO STAY AWAY FROM WANDE BEFORE HE INFECTS YOU WITH SENTIMENTS AND HATRED.MY ADVICE TO YOU IS PURELY ON HUMANATRIAN GRONNDS.

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Ama Kachikwu

Wande have you ever occupied any political post in Africa? Do you know what it feels like being in power and not what you read about or see? However some of us follow your political commentaries on a daily basis. What does my marital status have to do with understanding a topic which any dumb man or woman can understand?

You are not doing too well with this subject and making it rather personal. It is a broad one and affects so many in various ways.

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Wande Agunloye ‎@ Ibrahim Lmao! My brother u will never marry a woman above 25! U play for keeps! Lmao!

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Siti Abiola Wande,60 upwards is ideal 4 me o.Absolutely no stress....40-50...2 young 4 me...lol

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Ama Kachikwu

Mr Ibrahim, I try not to get caught up in a baseless theory with no grounds and true fulfilling purpose to back it up. I throw open the floor for controversial debates affecting human beings in every area of their lives.

I did invite you over to the other side of the Atlantic. http:queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com.

Have a read through. I cover every topic be it Inspirational, Political , Social or Spiritual.

Thanks for your complement as I get them every day and thank GOD.

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Ibrahim Jimeta Ambulum ‎@AMA KACHIKWU i know this fellow you ARE dealing with, he is a VIRUS.If WANDE SHOULD OCCUPY ANY POLITICAL POST IN AFRICA THEN I TELL YOU AMA KACHIKWU WANDE WILL INVITE WAR TO NIGERIA.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama Marriage is a different animal? A woman who has never been married uses ideals, dreams, hopes, love as her yard stick! A woman who has been married uses financial security, respect, consistency, romance kids etc as her yard stick! In other words once u have been married your views whatever they are will change!

As far as politics its about people and being a business man its part of my job to socialize with politicians n study human nature! I'm a developer n I fight in court, persuade politicians and the people affected by whatever I'm trying to develop! I notice that everyone always sees it from their point of view! However you are trying to get another human being with a different point of view to work with u! If u tell him kids n financial security are not important he will run away from you especially if he is over 35 yrs old!

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Wande Agunloye ‎@ Siti 60 is cruise control! Lol! U don't want to work for a man u simply want to let him eat and sleep! Lol! Anyway there are still some vigorous 60 year olds out there!

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama Women out number men and since the men are expected to head their households and carry on their family name they focus on finances n kids! Every young man is told that is his yard of success! So to get a husband u need to know your audience and its not u! Its him! U have to get him! Now should u want love sure but romance is better because u want to feel what he genuinely may want to express! However its like a ship n a rudder! The man is the ship n the woman is the rudder! She determines the direction he will go if she is sexy enough to do it! She must speak his love language! Many men don't know theirs but they all have one! Once u know n fit the bill u can make him do silly things for u! Then he will marry u!

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Ama Kachikwu

Wande again, You are not getting it . Being married is not a yardstick for ascertaining what is the norm for going into marriage. You should direct this question to a Man who has a made a mistake before in his marriage, completely burnt out and genuinely seeking redress. I tell you with every strength I can muster that Man would not use those barometers highlighted above to getting another wife. Unless his looking for an early death.

A woman can be respected regardless of a husband. Take out your husband's identity and who are you? If you cannot answer those questions as a married woman then you are not doing too well.

Watch Michelle Obama and you will see she has an Identity and personality outside of Barrack Obama. Most married women are yet to adopt that in their lives. They are simply undermining their confidence because they believe marriage is a social image which rules them.

Coming back to ones lack of experience because one is not married or has never being married, would you say you are not in a good position to comment politically on what is going on in Nigeria. We have never tried you with power to see how you will behave.

Those men in power in Africa where Men whom were once like you and I, but a different product in their lives called power has completely altered their images and personality. However does that stop you and I from advocating what should be in this regard even though we are yet to seat in Aso Rock?

Wande, money, children are by products of marriage. I find those women who have grown up with their husband, loving and respecting them against all odds did do a good job of looking after their children and pointing them in the right direction, putting that money into good use. It is no surprise you hear behind every successful Man is a Woman.

I still enjoy your political commentaries as very deep and incisive even though you are yet to seat in Aso Rock. Keep It up and join our debate on Saturday Morning.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama 1. Marriage defining a woman's idea of personal success is a disease only suffered by woman who have never been married! How many woman who have been married make that their priority? What they do say is IF I AM TO REMARRY THERE MUST BE PRACTICAL GOALS I M TRYING TO ACHIEVE!

2. Power is unrelated to what we r discussing! Politics is a social science! It tracks the consistency in human behavior when exposed to stimuli regarding how they choose to be governed! Business is also a social science! THEY R THEREFORE  RELATED! What a man does once elected is more of an exclusive product of his character, experience n knowledge at that point n far less about our ability to force him to do what we want him to do at that point till he comes for re-election! Let's stay on the topic!

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama women want security and they want a husband to procreate, have sex, romance etc n telling them that its not important to them or should not be as important is not marketable! That's what lesbians tell them!

What u should talk about is what goals r they trying to accomplish n what r their priorities as opposed to what they should be! Personal achievement is that woman's personal business n has nothing to do with meeting their husbands needs or vice versa!

In case u haven't noticed NO ONE WOULD TREAT MICHELLE OBAMA THEY WAY THEY PRESENTLY DO IF HER HUSBAND WAS NOT RULER OF THE FREE WORLD! Now let's take Oprah as a case study! Many women would not mind having 10% of her wealth n have kids as well!

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Ama Kachikwu

Wade,

Marriage, Power and Business are social sciences and influenced by human behaviour and social norms. Consistent behaviour, principles and ethics showcased by individuals in these realm are all yardsticks for broaching problems experienced by those people in those fields.

Power and Marriage can be used interchangeably. You exert power in your marriage as a Man likewise as a woman, even children too exert power in marriage within the family circle. Power is a very broad topic as well and it depends on what type of power you are talking about.

Coming back to the disease inherent in single women or women who have never being married before linking success to marriage makes me laugh so hard.

You know why women who have been married make such shallow requirements a basis for marriage because they seem to have missed the way. How do they start all over again without loosing out so much? That line of argument is for a woman who is not in Christ and could base love on monetary requirements. I did like to hear stuff like compatibility, similar interest and perseverance.

Looking around at women who have not made a success with their marriages gives a single woman or a woman who has never being married a unique disease to suffer from which is "wait, open you eyes, leap when just right and guard your life jealously".

Wande this definitely answers all your question. I will not go any further with this discussion. Read through my comments again as very deep and always led by the spirit when I write. You can tell?

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Ama Kachikwu

Siti my comment shows we cannot all be mothers with children in a proper family set up. However if a woman is so desperate to have children out of wedlock let her go and adopt a child. Those are by products you can test so easily without buying the machine for making them as yet. Heavy Investments are required to get such equipments should you want to make them yourself. The good news one can get those by products without having to invest personally on the equipments.

My solution is so practical and the culture in Africa does not put women in a position to truly be themselves. I Feel so sorry and angry at the same time. I am sure your sister is more under pressure from people asking her why is she not married at 37 than the inner drive to get married.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama 1. If u believe exercising power in a marriage is what those in a marriage should routinely do then u will always have a failed marriage congested with abuse! 2. Power has nothing to do with this topic! Successful marriages are partnerships focused less on what u want to get but how much u r willing to serve ur partner! What u want to get is what u have determined before getting married! HOWEVER U STILL HAVE TO MOTIVATE UR PARTNER TO GIVE U WANT U KNOW THEY HAVE! U DO THAT BY GIVING THEM WHAT U HAVE CORRECTLY DIAGNOSED THEY NEED!

If a woman's needs r meet she will be ur doormat n vice versa for men! U talk sweet, treat her with respect n let her feel the way she wants to feel n not do a power play N VICE VERSA! Men need marriages too NOT JUST WOMEN! That person u r married to has publicly said this person is whom I'm working with! Whether its 1 person or several!

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Siti Abiola i prefer cruise control 2 stick shift...lol

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Ama Kachikwu Siti instead of a woman who has respect for herself to destroy another Mans' home because she wants to have children out of wedlock is it not better to adopt and have respect for yourself. Worst still is hooking up with a single man who is in the position to marry you because his single but does not oblige you that removal of his freedom. Furthermore gets you pregnant but refuses to marry you showing the world your inability to be married properly. KAI! may GOD not let us experience this Amen.

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Ama Kachikwu I enjoyed this but please let us learn from this. Wande good job!

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Wande Agunloye ‎@ Siti I love cruise control because u can enjoy the ride! U can bask in the comfort! Lol enjoy the numerous features but a lot of times I will drive a sports car! For the handling! I do like a bit of calculated gambling! That's why I go to vegas! Lol for the casinos!

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Ama Kachikwu @Wande a woman who is able to exercise her femininity to get what she wants in her marriage understands the good use of power and what it involves. Power play is not the whole essence of power but how you use it and how it affects those who are influenced by it. Of course the ultimate result should be positive in marriage.

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Siti Abiola

Ama,what is wrong in having a kid without marriage?will she wait 4 life b4 she has kids?Destroying a home?How?Adoption is like comparing sleep with death,when u adopt u av actually given up hope of having ur own kids,i av nothing against adoption bt,any woman that tells u she is happy with adoption is obviously lying.No woman wants 2 be called barren&moreover,our culture is totally different frm "oyinbo"culture.

We all desire 2 have our own,those we can call ours&it is only when that option sms nt feasible that we resort 2 adoption.I have friends who av adopted bt if they discover they r pregnant 2day,they will be d happiest pple on earth.

Regarding ur premise that having a child out of wedlock is tantamount 2 destroying a home,i beg 2 differ.We all r looking 4 our personal comforts&if someone else has 2 bear d brunt so be it.She should hold on 2 her husband tightly@least no one forced her man 2 indulge in extra marital affairs.

So when a man uses&dumps u 4 hs home it is fair?No madam,so many ladies r out there with no hope of getting married y on earth would they want 2 think abt a woman whose husband is adding 2 their probs?

It is easier said than done.If my sis gts pregnant 2day i will be 2 happy 2 shoulder d responsibility of raising that child,who cares whether d man accepts or nt bt one thing i know is d child will never lack.In actual fact,d man will accept responsibility.Who nds marriage?

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama that is abuse! It won't last long! Marriage is a partnership! The strongest partnerships go thru very good times n bad so u must be there n sacrifice when it is bad n invest in ur partner when it is good to weather the next obstacle! If I did power plays on a woman when I have it good she will step on me when she has the upper hand when things r bad!

That is why observing n qualifying ur partner properly is extremely important! Their temperament, how they treat people who have nothing to give in return! Once u have a charitable, hard working easy going person who is intelligent n knows how to make his or her partner feel with some sex appeal! JACKPOT! U will r more likely to survive what life throws at u!

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Siti Abiola Wande plssssss....dont corrupt me o...handling...uhmmmmm...wow!

lol

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Ama Kachikwu

Wande,

My final word, Michelle Obama is not treated that way because her husband is the president of a free world. Poeple also respect Oprah Winfrey and Condoliza rice as well . Michelle has demonstrated the ability to keep a home, manage a home, maintain her identity as well as her husbands and reach a mutual goal. No wonder they demonstrate friendship, happiness and success.

Sex is good and a means to procreate. However, you will see women who lie to their husband that place is not right today so we cannot do it tonight. They just don't enjoy sex with the man or the man does not enjoy sex with them. Vice-Versa. Then you see such man running out to a desperate woman who wants to have a child out of wedlock. or the woman running to a single man who wants wealth overnight and needs cash.

When that quickie takes place and a child is involved the man starts crying I have a wife. You wonder if people don't truly relish their freedom and space and just getting married for social reasons.

These points are more than enough to write a book.

Bye!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Siti my dear u hit the nail on the head! That means u value ur children n see them as a valuable product of the union! What people don't focus on is the reason marriage is important! 1. When u r married the govt gives u legal protection such as child support or family support in naija! 2. In a divorce the suppose can get spousal support! However if u have a good hearted hard working prosperous spouse who can satisfy ur physical desires U DONT NEED SOCIETY TO PROTECT U BECAUSE HE OR SHE WONT HURT U! THEY CAN ONLY BLESS U! When u have met their type u standards increase! In fact spouses that look good to others can't keep 5 minutes of ur time!

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Ama Kachikwu

Siti a woman who adopts a child is not a barren woman and has not given up hope on having a child or getting married. It is a very shallow way of thinking. It is very deep to adopt when you can and only ushering in a child of your own. People who are happily married adopt children how much more people who are single.

It makes you responsible and preparing you for a by-product which you believe you can also make on your own. Siti please make your sister no go break another man home. If she refuses to do she will not get pregnant for a married man. They will blame her and not a man who already has his security documented in a sealed agreement and signed off by others.

Unless that Man lies he is not married like most do to get a fresh single woman. To protect yourself no sex before marriage. If you use that as yardstick he will run away if he is not there for love.

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Siti Abiola lolzzzz...will ask my daughter 2 contact u.she is an advocate of no sex b4 marriage bt hw will that work on a 37yr old lady?

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Jokotade Agunloye Greenberg That's my brother ladies. Hold back your adoration

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Ama Kachikwu Siti please feel free. If a 37 year old woman can go to work and her boss shouts her down and she takes the insult all because of fulfilment and money. Then she can close those legs and respect her womanhood. Unless she is under the influence of charm which people use nowadays to get woman. The blood of Jesus cannot be overemphasized in that regard.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama If 2 people r in bed n don't want to have sex its their fault not their partners! If a person is as sweet as they claim that partner will look for ways to kill u with sex! In fact u will tell them to get someone on the side sef! I have seen men tell a woman what they can do or not do with the boyfriend sef! Oprah n Rice made it without spouses! M Obama did not!

Also having a child is a way to forever enshrine their love for one another n not these oyinbo standards Siti was talking about! People have multiple relationships because they r into who they r having it with not because there is something wrong with who they r already with! The Oyinbos themselves in increasing numbers r co habiting without marriage n in their countries the divorce rate is 50% within the 1st 3yrs! So is their system better than the davids n jacobs of the koran n bible?!

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Siti Abiola Dont worry,he is safe with me....

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Ama Kachikwu Siti your daughter can email me on ama.kachikwu@giamediaservicesltd.com. Bye for now as need to go.

Share my blog with her as well.

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Siti Lol tell Ama O! Lol! No sex before marriage! Lol! @ Ama look what Siti said is most people even though the love the child they have adopted will still be happy with their own! Finish! As far as breaking up home or no home! That is an oyinbo concept! They do it even with people of the same sex outside of marriage but when no one knows about it the spouse is as happy as can be abi?!

So was the spouse an idiot when they didn't know?

In our culture when they do did the system break down! When they were doing it in the bible did GOD say they were cursed! Or r the muslim women who r 1 of 4 substandard?!

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Ama Kachikwu

Please guys get the information right and understanding. This has nothing to do with oyibo style. Muslim woman who are 3rd and 4th wives get married in the proper way and get people to witness the event. There is nothing wrong with adopting a child and waiting to get yours enshrined with the proper man.

Please have a re-read as there is nothing Siti wants to tell me that the spirit has not taught me yet. You do not have to be married to understand all these. If a woman who has never been married wants to venture into marriage let her do it the proper way as I do not care what your age is. I am not condemning anyone who finds it difficult to exercise restrain and do things properly. I can only ask for GOD's grace and mercy in their lives.

Take care as final final word for everyone.

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Wande Agunloye

I think its crazy to say stay celibate n then say u r dealing on the same standard as a man because I can assure u he is not celibate? N who is willing to wait on ur celibacy before marriage? LOL That's the problem all these women have! They r focus SOLELY ON WHAT THEY EXPECT OUT OF THE MARRIAGE N NOT THEIR SPOUSE'S NEEDS!

A marriage is just a relationship with enshrined LEGAL RIGHTS OR BENEFITS PROTECTED BY LAW!

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama If u believe a woman married under muslim rights as a 2nd or 3rd wife is protected! Then GOOD the man does not have to divorce the 1st to marry the 2nd wife! Therefore if ur over 30 n single don't worry about his 1st wife worry about...See More

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Siti Abiola

lol.....4 smone who hs never tasted sex,marriage b4 sex might work bt 4 smone wey don dey enjoy d thing,e get as e be....lol

Adopting 2 usher in ur own child sounds selfish bcos u r nt doing it out of love bt 4 ur own ultimate desire.There is unquantifiable joy in having ur own fruit of d womb bt when that does nt happen u cn go 4 adoption as consolation.4 those with kids who adopt other kids,that is a sign of truly loving ur neighbours&i commend them 4 their show of love.That is a different thing altogether,i can and actually plan on adopting 2 kids which 2 me is just my own way of reaching out 2 those in need,period.

Wande,u don cause wahala o....lol

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Wande Agunloye

‎@Siti Lol Don't mind them! As u get older do they think they will think the same way they did when they were younger! Grown people are grown people n they do what suits them! Imagine a man running to tell his friends he has been married 25 years n his wife cheated on him?! The men may give him their card n tell him to tell her to call them! Lol!

They have not seen the wife visiting the girlfriend at the hospital n being good friends! They r fighting like cats n dogs about he must be solely for them! Why don't they fight over his debts if he goes bankrupt! Or fight over him if he becomes handicap or impotent GOD forbid! They better get themselves together! Romance, financial security n train some kids they will be proud of n get some cruise control! I just like my own with that sports car with a manuel transmission! Lol! Feel me!

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Ama Kachikwu

Siti I still do not agree with you. It is like saying a Man has to be rich before he can extend help or assist another man in need of money.

You can adopt children not because of an ultimate desire to have children. Most women who have gone into marriage with an ultimate desire to have children are miserable and later find out there are other more important things as well.

We should all learn to be charitable regardless of ones circumstance.

Being married is not a yardstick for happiness. It is not a yardstick for success. There is no marriage in heaven. I have watched so many women in Nigeria loose their lives because of marriage, looking miserable and haggard. Yet when such woman sees a young beautiful single woman she is so afraid and has no confidence in herself thinking her husband could leave her for a younger aspiring woman who knows how to hold her own.

Siti please let us make true sense out of this completely leaving culture out of it. It has nothing to do with oyibo. What if your sister has been married all this years and cannot have a child at 37?

57 minutes ago · Like

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama what if she had a child out of wedlock n was happy must she adopt anyone else's standards! Look 7 out of 10 r single because there r not enough GOOD MEN TO GO ROUND! If some women r willing to marry a man who is married what is any other woman's beef! If they want cobwebs to grow in their own for lack of use so be it!

Some r lesbians others gay do we attack them on the street n say Y NOW?! NO! SO I WILL MAKE MY OWN PERSONAL HAPPINESS DEPENDENT ON ANOTHER?! GOD FOR BID! Look that is equality ladies WELCOME TO A MAN'S WORLD! EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DO THEIR OWN THE WAY THEY SEE FIT N THE KORAN N BIBLE BOTH HAVE NOT SENT A MAN TO JAIL FOR 2 WIVES! OR A WOMAN WHO BELIEVES IN GOD WILL GO TO HELL SOLELY FOR HAVING A CHILD FOR SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED!

45 minutes ago · Like

Commentator 2

Ama Kachikwu

Wande, Go and read my last point to siti and stop debating from your head. Nobody is condemning any woman for being a 3rd wife. She is a wife even as a 3rd wife. Poeple make mistake and have children out of wedlock. Some do it intentionallyand I really do feel sorry for those who go that route.

Wande nobody has said having children out of wedlock makes you less happy.

I still maintain if a woman is so desperate and cannot hold her own any more but desperately in need of a child let her go an adopt a child rather than getting pregnant for any man just to have her own child. That is so selfish and wicked both to the Man and to her child.

Please be logical in you reasoning.

The debate is getting rather irksome and not learning from it.

What is your final conclusion? Your status update. I can't help you any more.

27 minutes ago · Like

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Wande Agunloye

‎@ Ama Marriage is a relationship with legal protections! Period! Some women need to even be protected from the men they ended up marrying! LOL Why? Because the man brought no added value! Will I tell that woman to get married have a child n loss half her fortune because she had to have the child under wedlock! Is that not what killed Christina Onasis?! Then the husband took the money n married someone else! Have men not killed their rich wives they just married for money?

Look we have heard u arguments Ama! SOME PEOPLE WANT TO HAVE THEIR OWN N DONT FEEL THEY SHOULD ADOPT WHEN THEY CAN HAVE THEIRS JUST BECAUSE THEY R NOT MARRIED! DONT FEEL SORRY FOR THEM! THEY WILL NOT BE SORRY FOR ANY WOMAN AT 50 RUNNING TO ADOPT BECAUSE OF ALL THE ABORTIONS SHE DID ALL ALONG THE WAY TO AVOID ONE OUT OF SO CALLED WEDLOCK!

16 minutes ago · Like

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