Why Does Love Have to Hurt so Much?

Julian from London:  December 25, 2009 at 11:58am 

You've got ur head so high its amazing....n you seem like the kinda person i could talk to..i hv an issue n i guess the only way i could get it off is by sharing.... holla

   Ama  December 26, 2009 at 1:25am

   Cool dear. email .

Julian from London:   December 26, 2009 at 10:57pm

Hi Ama, Merry Christmas. I wish I could be as merry as you are! I'm caught up in a war! I'm gonna give you a picture of what the situation is. I am torn between my family and the man I love. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5years now. In all these years my parents have always made it clear that they don't like him. They've got loads of reasons why. their biggest fear is that his controlling nature will ruin me. Now he says we should get on and get married without them. I love him so much but I know I could never do that to my parents. I really don't know what to do.holla

   Ama  December 26, 2009 at 10:57pm

   Hello Julian,

Thanks for confiding in me. I must say I have been in a similar situation. Firstly, the decision to be happy is free and depends on the individual n the way they choose to control their mind. You should be happy and deserve to be happy. Make that decision today that no matter what you will be happy. Secondly, You should never fight with your family over a Man especially when he is fully aware of it. Your man should indeed be trying to make peace between you and your family by winning their love over. Please do not fight your people. Tomorrow that guy will use it against you. Please let him prove to your family beyond reasonable doubt that he will indeed be a good inlaw, a good father and a good husband. This will all show in his character overtime. Be wise and look before you leap!

 Julian from London:  December 27, 2009 at 3:56pm

Thank you so much Ama. Your mail brought a big smile to my face. Speakin about my issue something terrible happened yesterday. Now my family has every reason to say no. I just found out he has a daughter. My cousin who lives in missouri called my mom and told her about it. He never told me. Well I asked him and he said he was scared to tell me because he was sure I would leave him. I'm really upset by this but I still truly do not know what to do. Apparently he was even married to d lady who has the kid. I'm just so sad. Why does love have to hurt so much?

LOVE FOOD FOR THOUGHT:

True Love is the greatest. It is capable of raising a dead man completely shattered and wounded.

It heightens confidence, influences creativity and builds a Heaven in Hell's despair. 

O true love is what is left over when being in love has burned away. That which moves the sun and the other stars n dares not speak its name. 

O! My true love is not love’s pleasure that lasts but a moment rather it is love sorrow which lasts all through life. 

There is no disguise which can hide true love for long where it exists, or feign it where it does not. Above all, true love is so powerful that many waters cannot quench it; neither can the floods drown it. 

True love reminds one of a man who lay down his life for his friends. True love is that love which lasts longest because it is never returned. They call it the noblest frailty of the mind but yet it conquers all things.

True love is painful and sweet. I tell you it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. 

Take my true love which is like a yellow yellow rose that is newly sprung in February; O my true love is that essence in my smile; It cast away all fears but a reminder that is not about gazing at each other, rather it is looking together in the same direction. 

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