Motherhood: A Curse or Blessing?

What a disappointment?  What a disaster? What a disgrace? 

Motherhood in Africa decaying fast! Motherhood in Africa losing its values! Motherhood in Africa now a headspring of destruction for their children rather character moulders. Motherhood now centred on misplaced priorities and greed. 

Nowadays, You see a mother with married children wanting to look 16 by all means exposing her boobs meant for her husband for the world to see. You see a 40 year old mother almost looking like a call girl.  Some outfits that mothers put on are abominable all in the name of couture. Some, even belong to all kinds of occultic groups using their children for all kinds of ritual in order to acquire wealth and top positions at all cost. Many are not finding it difficult to cheat on their husbands.

What is Motherhood? It is a life of sacrifice, yet many are not willing to make any meaningful sacrifice for their children's life to be anything or better. What is motherhood?  The state of being a mother; The qualities of a mother: selfless, compassionate, patient, loving, humble, calm, spiritual, reliable, and industrious. etc

Why go through the rigorous exercise of giving birth to a child, and supplied the ovum that unites with a sperm which grows into a child delivered after 9 months or fewer? Why bother having children when you hate them and want them dead spiritually and physically? Why bother bringing children into the world for destruction? Why bother having children when you want another woman to fulfill the social role of raising them, and there is nothing wrong with you physically, mentally and otherwise?

I ask the same question by Louisa May Alcott, 'What do girls do who haven't any mothers to help them through their troubles?'

 A Mother should be involved in helping her child through life's troubles as nobody is best positioned to do this other than a mother. It is a different ball game altogether if the mother of a child is dead physically, spiritually, financially, socially, mentally and culturally. Then it is a no-brainer that a charitable woman steps into the role and assumes the role of a new mother.

According to Jessica Lange, 'The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the center of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children'. 

 In the quest for wealth and positions within the society, many now sacrifice the destinies of some of their children and generations yet unborn. Some even encourage their children to go into prostitution and theft. Some encourage child slavery and would not want anything good for their children. Some would sacrifice the life of their most talented and gifted child all in the name of wealth and God forsaken positions.

Somerset Maugham was right to state, ' Few misfortunes can befall a boy which bring worse consequences than to have a really affectionate mother'. Children would get to that stage where they now feel they know more than you and would sometimes challenge your authority. This is an important place where many mothers deepen their qualities: showing love when we shouldn't be giving love in the first place because of badly behaved children. It is that love that transforms a child who has gone into fraud, prostitution or armed-robbery out of no fault of yours.

 Where is motherhood in Africa and across the globe headed? This is not what God meant when he said a Child should have an earthly guardian called a mother and father. It is a pity! Motherhood in Africa and across the globe needs complete deliverance. We need to act fast because the center cannot hold anymore. Motherhood now stinks and needs cleansing before it is too  late. 

I want to encourage all good mothers out there in the world to continue in their excellent job as in no time you would reap the fruit of your reward. It is a thing of joy to be a good mother. How gracious and honorable to see those kids become teenagers, adults and eventually ambassadors of good upbringing.

I just want to use this opportunity to thank my mother for those good old days of being a selfless and a true mother.

The crown of motherhood is to see your children become greater than you.

Successful motherhood is the ability to unite your children teaching them true love and killing every form of negative competition among them.


Motherhood is a heart of true love and forgiveness. 

Motherhood is the spring of life for any family to thrive here on Earth.

Motherhood is stripping oneself physically to protect your children spiritually enabling the germination of the seed of greatness within them.

The only covenant a mother must go into is one with the source of light, which involves seeking the kingdom of God first, and every other thing will be added unto you.

Motherhood is far more valuable and worth far more than rubies.

Motherhood does good to her children and not evil.

Motherhood is what makes any family stand tall in the community, society and nation. 

Motherhood should be a blessing and not a curse.

Wherever you have failed in your duties as a mother you can retrace your steps.

Oh God my father, deliver motherhood from decadence In Jesus name.



One Love Mothers, 


I wish all a merry Christmas and prosperous 2013 in advance.


Queen Ama

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