There are so many matters of the "heart and head", but some could be avoided.
One wonders if there should unquestionably be any secret between two people who call themselves one.
Let one be careful to understand several basic matters influencing the society.
1. Daniel says his sole, but it is a problem.
2. Vera is married, but miserable and just divorced.
3. David Cameron is married, but working hard on his marriage and has made a success of it.
4. Oprah is not married, but more successful than most married couples.
There is nothing wrong with being single provided one stays uncontaminated, and one is not too lonely.
Once one is married, one is in a life prime commitment and must keep to the "terms and conditions" of this arrangement even with sickness and until death. The terms and conditions of marriage for those who believe and demonstrate the authority to keep to any legal contract requires hardwork and perseverance. One needs to develop oneself to the point where one can bear the terms of this agreement called marriage. One also needs patience and hard work to be single.
There is an age limit to enter into any formal contract and even at that not everyone meets the criteria.
Yes, the bible says two is better than one. However, should one want to enjoy the benefits of synergy as stated in the bible, one has to check ones partner fully complements one in all ways. I used the word "synergy" which means the collaboration of two or more organizations to deliver combined effect greater than the sum of their separate effects. Guys this is what Marriage should be.
Has one ever seen an Insurance company selling a different product representing a different interest, merging with an Investment bank selling a different product set? For any merger to be powerful, and effective, background checks are the case. Moreso, make sure migration is fully possible without having to spend more and benefit less from its intended purpose.
Likewise, marriage should follow these principles.
Some are in the stage still learning and doing their background checks. They should enjoy the full benefits of synergy if accurately assimilated the right information and projected what could go wrong in the future. If one is doing better as a single woman/man than when married, then one is not reaping the benefits of synergy.
An 86 year old woman, who knew the pangs of child births, and also experienced 7 children dying with their eventual deaths has been branded a witch. Those following the devastating trend in the family topped the "gossip chart" in coining the phrase "witch". Well, it is confirmed that her husband whom appears to be nature’s only liability joined ogboni one of those quick get rich scam cults in the world. Now, his wife and children bear the brunt of a weak and lazy person who secretly dined with the devil, refused to work hard, go through a process and be truly blessed by GOD. I ask how well Mama knew this Man?
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Kwaku |
this is food for thought, be careful not to be a victim.the more u are on ur knees the more u can stand on ur feet.
September 22, 2009 at 8:28am
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AMA |
Laud, the key to a successful marriage is the power of a praying wife. There is no poshness about that.
September 22, 2009 at 5:57pm
Label: "Clocking 30 and above but Single", "Married and Miserable", "Say No To Cultism".
Finding your soul-mate is the greater part of self- discovery. Imagine where the synergy of two is greater than one. A unique blend of talents holding hands together and walking in the same direction.
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