Queen Ama's Food For Thought: Miracle Transformation.

Queen Ama's Food For Thought: Miracle Transformation.: "There are several registered charities funded and founded on the basis for assisting those in need. However, many organisations with such s..."

Miracle Transformation.

There are several registered charities funded and founded on the basis for assisting those in need. However, many organisations with such strategic objectives and mission statement end up taking money from people without putting them into beneficial service and most times for their own selfish-interest and satisfaction of bloated egos.

It is the heart and conscience that truly matters on a Saturday morning. Where an individual takes up the initiative turning little drops into a pool of funds one has been able to commit to changing lives profoundly. It is not the funds that count here but the heart, the desire and commitment to spend time with strangers who gradually become part of one’s family.

Just take a look at the below images of people who need true love, care, shelter and family.

I Met with Tonye Cole, Managing Director of Sahara Energy Group and wife Dr Cole Sylvia who with just a heart to do some good have transformed the lives of so many termed by society as “hopeless”, “useless” and a “burden”.


What Drives your kindness to the needy?

It is unbelievable how a life lived with such conditions can be profoundly hindered by a society that equates any form of disability to demonic attacks, shame/disgrace to the family and a sense of burden and inconvenience to relatives and even the general population.

How can you account for the funds raised overtime to support a charitable project?

As a result of the funding gathered, we have been able to expand the areas of intervention to include the following items listed in below table. In all cases, the beneficiaries are extremely poor and unable to fund necessary operations.

Areas of Need	Cost Implications
1.       Total renovation of the Cheshire Home, Lagos	N2,000,000.00 (approx.)
2.       Cleft surgeries for 15 people in Lagos and Ekiti	N1,500,000.00
3.       Cataracts surgeries for 50 people in Lagos	See Row 5
4.       Minor eye treatment for 30 people in Lagos	See Row 5
5.       Education for eye care, eye tests, eye glasses   for 500 people in Lagos	N2, 010,000.00 (items 3, 4 &5 incl.)
6.       Web site implementation for Global Foundation for Orphaned Children	N135,000.00
7.       Public awareness program for Global Foundation (newspaper interview)	N200,000.00 (so far spent to cover journalists travel and logistics)
8.       Leg and feet correction surgeries for 11 people	N1,450,000.00
9.       Downs syndrome society of Nigeria (heart surgery for 2 children)	N2,400,000.00
10.   Equipping a sick bay for Immaculate Heart College, Borokiri, Port Harcourt	N70,000.00
Total	N9,765,000.00

We have successfully carried out 11 surgeries in Port Harcourt for children and young adults who have suffered from polio, rickets or some form of disability to the legs giving them a reason to walk, talk and smile again.

A Miracle Transformation

 Miracle Food For Thought:

"Many complain of lack, but with the little they have they cannot give".

The Images above are more than enough to convince anyone to make compulsory contributions.

"The greatest fulfilment anyone can receive out of life comes from the passion of touching and transforming lives".

"Until one reaches, the top of Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of need where one help others to self-actualize one has only just started out in life".

"Let us show love whilst we still have the opportunity to do so".

"One can see it is a “miracle transformation”.

Thank you for your help to Lagos Cheshire Home for the Disabled, may God bless you all.

Please contact a.sales@giamediaservicesltd.com ; +44 (0) 7404262865 for all donations.

OR.

Pay Directly into;

HSBC Account number: 31526766, sort code: 40-07-06 using reference "Physically Challenged Mushin".

http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/2011/01/what-truly-matters-on-saturday-morning.html

True Love is Great

Labels:  "Selflessness  and Sharing",  "Miracle Transformation - Part 2", "What Truly Matters on Saturday Morning- Part 3".

He is a thief, but I still love him.

Queen Ama's Food For Thought: He is a thief, but I still love him.: "Agony Aunt Roseline From Russia February 12 at 9:05am Report Doris has been in a relationship with a ..."

He is a thief, but I still love him.

Roseline From Russia      February 12 at 9:05am

Doris has been in a relationship with a guy from cote De voir for about 8months now, and at the beginning she had asked about his previous relationships, he had spoken about a previous relationship with a Russian girl which he send had ended a longtime ago, several times in other for Doris to be fully satisfied that he was actually telling the truth she decided to investigate herself because she was really in love with the guy, so she asked his friends and several other people who had known him for a very longtime, but of course men are always loyal to their male friends, so they would definitely defend him at all cost, so she still wasn't satisfied and resorted to intruding into his privacy by going through his text msgs on his phone to her great astonishment they had been in communication up till date love text-msgs this had happened when her boyfriend had gone to have his bath and had mistakenly left his phone in the room which he normally doesn't do. Funny enough some of the text messages he had sent to the girl where the very same one he had also sent to her. So she decided not to confront him immediately, because if she did he would have denied it outrightly because there wasn't any visible prove. 


There is another Russian site like Facebook called kontakt where he recently uploaded despicable photos of him and that Russian girl, and she also uses that site and she saw those photos, in outrage she confronted him and showed him the photos and he said that he wasn't the one that uploaded the photos as the girl had the password and access to his account on Kontakt, even his profile picture was the Russian girl's picture, she was so heartbroken and disappointed, he pleaded and begged that he his with the Russian girl for her money,and nothingelse that he doesn't love her, and Doris on the other hand still loves him despite all these and the guy all these while had been dating both of them without her notice, everyday he calls begging that he his ready to leave her, if she accepts him back, so the question his what is Doris expected to do in such a situation?

Ama      February 12 at 10:02am

The Man Doris is dating has a serious Character flaw. A Man is dating another woman because of money and keeping another one because of love. How does that sound, Good or Lousy?

Do you truly believe he loves Doris? He also has a reason for loving Doris, as well. Any Man who can choose anything they love about you or quantify their reason for true love will withdraw from you sooner before those reasons expire.

A man should look after a woman and not the other way round.

Doris should start running for her life before it is too late. When a Man speaks negatively about another woman or says something demeaning in this case, "I am dating this girl for her money" he would reveal exactly the same thing to the next woman when she finds out about Doris.

Doris knows about the other women, has ample evidence, but the other woman knows nothing about Doris. Who is most preferred?

Doris sixth sense had told her something was wrong from the onset, but like ever daring human being, I would stick with it and call it true love. Why did she decide to search his phone because she knew there was something not right about her Man.

Here, is my take on this hot matter. Doris is encouraging another Man to steal from another woman. He has just informed Doris, "I am a thief". What are you doing with a thief?

The ball is in Doris court if after reading this, she still decides to remain with a thief. In no time, she will become one herself.

All My Love,

Queen Ama

Labels: " Heartbroken and Disappointed", "Character Flaw", "Gigolo", "Agony Aunt".

Why Some Men End Up Dogs!

Henry    February 15 at 12:33am

This is going to be kind of an epistle.

I have this thing I do casually and that is mending relationships and building broken ones. I guess this is a situation where a doctor can no longer treat himself.

While I was in college, I never wanted to date because I know am adventurous with women and will not want commitments or to break their heart either. However on graduation, I decided that am of age to respect women and show commitment. I then ran into a girl who was a guest in a family friend's house, she was doing her diploma. In 2005, I fell in love with her and she did too. She had issues with securing admission into the university, a year later, I felt I have to help my girlfriend, and somehow I paid a whopping some of N170,000 to get her admission. Her family couldn't do this for her then. One way or the other I saw her through school, then I changed my job in her 300level to become a banker- and later in December 2009, I was affected by the retrenchment. So throughout her final year, I was without a job and no longer met up as usual, and within this time her attitude towards me totally changed. She began to avoid me. I dated her for five years, and I never for one day cheated on her because I wanted to keep to my promise of been faithful. However, last year, since she began sleeping around with the same person she told me nothing was between them, and she was seeing some other guys. It became too much for me that the only person I believed in was not there for me in my time of troubles, rather she was hurting me and frustrating all my effort to get into any form of communication with her. She has hurt me so much I cant start siting instances. This year she eventually came back to school to work on her project and after we talked, she confessed some of her shortcomings of cheating on me, which I openly forgave her because to "err is human and to forgive is divine". I asked her to change and stop all she is doing. She agreed but went back to school and continued. Every time I want to see her, she switches her phone off and later explains her battery was off. She has never done this before. I called her on Sunday to plan Valentine gala with her, but she told me she was going to travel on Valentines day to Lagos because her sister is travelling abroad and wanted her to come stay with the kids. I then accepted but made a counter offer- that instead of travelling to Lagos by road and get there in the evening, that she should spend the day with me and then in the evening I will fly her out to Lagos, she still refused the offer. On valentines day, I called to wish her happy valentine and bon voyage and she claimed she was on her way already to Lagos, and then she switched her phone off at 8.30pm. Curiously, I decided to call her sister so as to speak with her just in the event it was her battery that was dead. Low and behold, her sister knew nothing about her trip to Lagos on Monday- Valentine's day. She had informed her sister she will be coming to Lagos on the 15th of February. Her sister promised to call me just in case she arrives, but she is still not there till now. I waited patiently for her to graduate so together we could build our future- but her attitude sets me 5 years behind. I can forgive a cheating girlfriend but its difficult to forget a deceptive girlfriend and one you can no longer trust. It is like sitting on a gun powder, I am terribly confused and do not know what to do. I still love her- but am thinking of letting go. I know sometimes we just have to let go of what we value so much, because we love them and then move ahead. Whats your take on this epistle.

Ama        February 16 at 10:55am

Dear Henry,

Thanks for sharing with me. I know how you feel right now.

True love is what is left over when being in love has burnt away.

You are still in love after everything. It is encouraging to know men do feel this way.

I am so sorry, but it is obvious your woman is dating another Man. She spent valentine with him. When 2 people are in a relationship and all of a sudden one, starts appearing to be elusive that is the first signal of a dying relationship or a convenient way to say I am no longer interested. She does not want to hurt you, and that is the only way to send across a good message, “leave me alone”. Then an active phone becomes dead all of a sudden, but yet she is active in the hands of another man.

You went into the relationship with an innocent heart, to love, to give, to build and to grow. However, the woman in question had you going because she wanted her school fees paid, which her family could not afford. Poverty in Africa has also disconnected true love from the agenda in most relationships. Many people have gone into relationships for financial reasons. Once that factor has been fully tapped into or the beneficiary sees no use of its benefactor of course they take off. That is how parasites survive through life. A parasite takes from you, they get nutrients like school fees from you, and they drain you without giving anything in return.

Poverty is not the only factor responsible for lack of natural love because girls brought up with silver spoons also date men for their money. It has to do with strength of character, morals and values.

Coming back to you as the man, why did you pay for her school fees? Did you want anything in return or what we call a charitable gesture?

You were already thinking of your future with her, but she was not looking in the same direction as you. She is not ready for marriage or commitment now and has other more noteworthy things on her scale of preference. Therefore, you could not meet up during the global recession, and of course, someone else could fulfil that need.

Today, it is extremely difficult to find 2 people who go into a natural-loving relationship without been calculating on what you can get from it. Therefore, anyone who is likely to exhibit any trace of true love is likely to get hurt. The society sees such people as "laughable fools".

The first lady and president of America, Mr and Mrs Obama, goes to show you can start a relationship without been so calculating. A casual relationship which gradually builds up friendship, understanding, character, love and strength. Check those individuals’ years down the line you would not be far from success, happiness and fulfilment, which they exude all around them. They become a yardstick for most relationships.

Here, is my take on this common phenomenon, stop calling her for now even though you are hurting and need to make a point. You are a Man and nobody has the right to set you 5 years back they are not God. You have your destiny in your hands, and it is only you that can steer it towards your dreams, hope and aspirations. I can state categorically nobody will do that for you but someone who truly sees your vision, understands it and wants to be part of it. When you find her she would be forever active in your arms come rain and sunshine. Her phone would be on the charger and there will be no excuse as to a dead battery. She will put you first before an aunt traveling abroad.

I wish you best of luck as you change your marketing strategy towards getting a real woman and you having the right values to attract a decent one.

Love,

Queen Ama

Henry   February 16 at 7:17pm 

Thanks for the hard line. I have never cried b4 even though I know I have a good heart, but right now I want to but still cannot. It is very disappointing for one to make all effort beyond to be truely commited, faithful, & sincere to someone and still get it thrown back at them. I have noticed that when I hurt people, I get it paid back to me in ten folds especially when the person is innocent and its vice versa. This is because I believe in the law of karma. My fear is I do not know if she can handle her own disappiontments when karma takes effects because it will be huge. For me the only solution is for the person to come begging or me go begging. I wish I could stop it because I have forgiven her but I cannot until she comes asking me to forgive her. However I will adhere to your advice, but am really sorry for the next woman that will come into my life (if any) because I will never give in my whole again even in marriage. I dont think I can freely ever trust a woman, whosoever she might be. Ama you are a darling- thanks alot & hope to hear from you soon.

Ama   February 16 at 11:11pm

Dear Henry,

Please do not allow one mistake ruin your future happiness. Pray you get a woman who appreciates you for who you are and not because you can pay her way through school.

I hate to hear you say your future wife would suffer. 

Labels: "My Girlfriend is Spending Valentine with Another Man",  "Poverty in Africa".

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A True Love Letter From Jupiter!

"An Illusion called Beauty"

Victor  February 5 at 10:16am 

Hi damsel this very first moment I am seeing you, your beauty radiates gorgeously like a diamond, It has been so long a woman has ever captured my attention so fully, Your smile lights up my entire spirit. Your smiles fills my humble heart with joy & affection, and your mere presence in my life will warmly inspire my life. I have no doubt, you are the woman Heaven had made especially for me.

Most importantly, Trust me you will be glad you did sharing your ideas and wanting to make me your Husband. No matter how slowly or at what distance our courtship develops, I know standing before God and our future family, vowing to be your partner for life, was the easiest decision I could have ever made.

It could seem like am in dreams right now, am a very positive person, i wish you feel same way am feeling right now someday meeting you out there. I have onced been told of tales about " Relationship on the internet ", I never believed it but with you I can stand to be a testimony. I admire your fragrance beauty and sincerely you are the real definition of BEAUTY. I am willing to accept all terms of having you, I need your love, care and affection in my life.

Each day that passes from today would make my affection for you grow stronger. Although I know it’s hard for us to be apart, I know nothing can keep us apart forever. Our desires will continue to stretch across any distance, over every mountain and ocean between us. Nothing can stand between us, and nothing will stop me from meeting you.

You are my future and nothing can ever keep us from our destiny. I would miss you more every day. I am here with open arms where you will some day finally arrive... right where you belong.

my humble heart seeks for your love....

do have your self a wonderful day,

God Bless you..

patiently waiting to hear from you.

Ama       February 5 at 10:49pm

Hello Victor, Thanks for your message. How thoughtful of you. 

Victor    February 7 at 12:46pm 

Glad to really hear from you, i bless the day i met u, you are a gem, simple, gorgeous, my heart got it all, i wish too hear from you soon.

God bless your heart.

av a great week ahead

"Many Marriages and relationships have been built on words rather than deeds".

"Many say I do, but end up not doing".

" In the multitude of words, there is likely to be an error"

" True Love lies in doing and not merely stating a known fact."

“Beauty is perfected when the underlying values enhance the extrinsic values”.

" He has just won a lottery, Women love bold and Confident Men"

Labels: "Is He Sincere"?, "When was the last time you got a Love Letter?, 

Are You A Woman?

"Agent of Perfection"

Are you a Woman? Do you find yourself polishing and painting your face when expecting a male friend? I have come to tell you, they prefer natural looking women. They hate women who use strong bleaching agents, altering their image, they prefer your level of knowledge, wisdom, natural wit, confidence and character. They want that natural fragrance and smile when you say good-morning. They love the respect!

Men can get any butt size but what differentiates you from the next woman is your level of wisdom, style, personality, confidence and natural charm.

It kills them having to wait for you in the lounge while you spend so much time powdering your face and painting your lips.

Have you ever seen an ugly baby? It means there is no ugly woman. It is that innermost purity that matters more than anything else, that peace and warmth you exude.

Women are dying from stupid surgeries giving them a generous sized butt for a particular man, some wear tattoos with the Man's name. Most times he leaves you for a normal girl without any mark reminding him of his name. He knows and understands one will not be an asylum case should he decide to walk miles away from you.

I feel so sad the way another woman like me as left the surface of this Earth to another world which many are unfamiliar with and so scared to think about. Why accelerate the departure to that most dreadful place when you are not prepared. Miss Claudia Aderotimi was just 20, yet to be 21 and could enjoy 80 Years more. May her soul rest in peace. My heart goes out to her mother and family. I wonder how they feel right now.

Ignorance is killing many, the more I look at myself when I was 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19.20, 21, 22,23.24,25. Ehh! See all of you, you want to know my age. You see, we are all scared of ageing and dying.

The best way to deal with Age and death is to understand they are inevitable. You should live everyday as it is your last, do those things that are necessary, those things that help boost your confidence like your level of knowledge, articulation and self-expression. This you can get by reading, watching television, attracting faithful friends and buddies who share the same essence of life with you.

Sometimes you see a woman dressed to kill, and she opens her mouth to speak. My goodness! Who is the president of America? She does not know? Who has brought change to Egypt? Well I am not from Egypt how can I know that. Barbados is a lovely place for holiday and looking to chill out in one of this resort. Please where is Barbados, I am not going to resort to all your questions. Now, do you expect him to take you serious or plan a holiday with you? Communication is a big problem.

You are likely to cry out in the hotel when you see the bill. Shouting! Waiter I did not eat total.

Now, you see what matters!

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Jon Pol

Good note Ama! Women all over the world do need to realise that men value what they don't see more than what they do see. Shiny lips, long eyelashes and having a perfect the bra size is good for a one night stand but not necessarily for the altar!

8 hours ago · 

Craig

I love women in lots of make-up and I'm quite happy to wait while they put it on. And have I ever seen an ugly baby? Yes, all of them! But I agree that "cosmetic" surgery is an abomination -- don't get your body carved up, please.
6 hours ago · 

HisRoyalmajesty Peteroski

Hmmmm««U'r write up is touching!!
5 hours ago · 

Nathaniel 

The best criticism is that we make of ourselves, I think you are spot on on your evaluation in this piece. Without sounding personal, I hate makeup, I like my sofa, bed spread and pillow smelling fresh, I would like to bump into someone in my immaculate white shirt without a rainbow stain. The truth is television, western civilization and commercialization have diluted the way we see the world, and I dare to say this, women competing against self have made most to pay attention to irrelevances and less attention to such things as virtue, honest friendship, natural looks and sense of goodness, which was the principal thing God impacted a woman on creation.....the beauty of a woman is within not without, for outward appearance can be altered but the inside is a jewel that the goldsmiths fire cannot alter without sweat.See
5 hours ago · 

 Ben    

Good afternoon my DEAR. Nice One Queen Ama. I always find most of ur Write-ups very interesting. But what you need to understand about Women is that, whenever they are not in that their cosmetic- looking outfit, they believe that they will not be really appreciated by MEN, without knowing that their innermost displays are the things that matter most. Please my sincere regards to the deceased family that lost a GEM. Do have a Gr8 day. Please keep it up. Ciao.
4 hours ago ·

Ama   

 Mr Ezeigwe, thank you so much. I am happy Men are contributing their quota here. Women hear from the horses mouth!
3 hours ago · 

Sandra

Everyone is different, some of the same men who like 'natural' when they get it, will chase 'unnatural' in the end. People need to make up their mind and determine what it is that they really want
3 hours ago · 

Ama

Sandra, every human being has to be comfortable in their own skin. If you are not, then someone would persuade you to alter your image. We are all unique in our own way.
3 hours ago · 

Augustine   

Natural beauty is it. It connotes the real person and dignifies the essense of womanhood. It purifies the body and connects emotionally with the man who is defined in his expectation.
2 hours ago · 

Ama     

Augustine thank you! Ladies I hope you are reading the comments from the men?
2 hours ago · 

Augustine

Besides the make -up , surgery and hypes associated with dressing , the inner beauty and and other accessories , the INNER beauty is the key , at least on a personal level.
2 hours ago · 

Ama     

 Augustine, It took years to learn and understand. I am offering a free-consultative service to all women with the help of the men. I learnt the hard way.
2 hours ago · 

Augustine           True?

Ama 

Augustine, now I am learning from a little girl's experience is that not a hard, painful experience?
2 hours ago ·

Augustine

 Not at all, you are on course, some people still learn at 4O, you dont have an idea how people think and reflect on their activities these days
2 hours ago ·

Sandra         ‎

@ Ama... you are right about people being comfortable in their own skin...But also some men just like some women do not know what they want in a person... well said though
58 minutes ago · 

Ben 

Yea i believe that everyone is different with different opinions as well. But we should call spade "A Spade" Miss Sandra Ekpenyong, pls see, No man would wanna be identified with a fluke. The issue of chasing the unnatural at the end is mostly determined by that same woman who pretended to be a "STAINLESS" initially but later changed. Do ya think its funny to live xtra-marital lives? Men don't find it funny THOUGH. With due respect to "WOMANHOOD" Let me deviate a lil bit. With those Paintings, Heavy Powdering, & Cosmetic Surgery, they tend to behave like partial Creatures. Un-warranted Make-ups is one of the reasons y ma BIG BRO aborted a relationship leading to marriage cos her behavior started changing when few cash started rolling in. Sitting on the Mirrow to make up 4 15 - 20 mins, stopped washing he guys clothes when she must have fixed the latest Acrylic Nails. Hope you find this interesting. Gdnite Dear Peepz.

4 hours ago · 

Ben           Augustine Isioma Iwelu, plz chop knuckles, you know the KOKO. Its the stability of the innermost behaviours that keep them rolling. You see, it baffles me to see our SWEET Queens and Princesses in the banking sector unmarried. Nawaooooooooh

3 hours ago ·

Ama            ‎@Ben the reason for women in the banking sector not being married is also due to the lack of confidence of men who are intimidated by women earning far much than them. Although, the banking sector has a way of making women unfeminine n turning them into men. I must confess it could be unattractive.

25 minutes ago ·

Tony

Guys lets keep it real! I beg to differ. Ladies, pls don't be deceived by these stories...I see a lot gaps in terms of idealism and realism in the write ups above. This will be another case of...somebody knocking you down and blaming you for not standing. 

While it is a truism that women appear better in their natural looks but trust me, "men will always be attracted by the artificial looks". WHY? is a big question! @Sandra, i agree with you to a great extent that when men find the 'natural' they will still go out to to find the 'unnatural'. Yes, we want it natural but when we see the unnatural ladies our eye balls will almost fall out....lol...guys pls stop this sermon and be honest. However, when it becomes too much, guys can be easily turned off.

If it was all about being natural, the one night stand ladies would have gone out of business because being artificial is their area of strength. You need to see the packaging of the accessories (unnatural) and how men dive at them. Pls do visit Allen avenue and give me result.

Ladies, just know where to strike the balance and go for what is best for you. Remember, you can hardly satisfy a man 100%. With my experience in the banking sector, male customers whether priority or mass customers, will always be attracted by the unnatural ladies. They get more attention and get enough tips. It is also very easy for the unnatural ones to convince difficult customers. We have used them to to resolve very difficult issues.

The fear which some men have expressed about female bankers is the fact that the ladies meet a lot of men on a daily basis and can't cope with the imagination of what will be happening outside the banking hall. In addition this is the point Ama already alluded to above concerning pay.

In summary, i will say that when men want to get serious, they go out looking for the natural ones because the assumption is that they are in most cases the wife materials. But sooner or later, the same man will go out chasing unnatural. Therefore, i urge you guys to always match realism and idealism. Within the realm of idealism, it is plausible to go for the natural ladies but the reality is that men will ALWAYS be attracted to the unnatural ladies. Sometimes, i may not like 100% but i cannot deny the fact that the lady is actually looking good on those unnatural stuffs....This simply represents my opinion and will help balance earlier comments which was already making it sound like there was no value in being unnatural.

15 minutes ago ·

Tony            ‎@Ama K, i have been very busy lately but i couldn't hold myself when i read this topic. Great job! I hope to see other shades of opinion on this interesting topic

11 minutes ago · 

Ama 

‎@Tony. Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Very true. I agree with you on your strong view point you have brought to the table. It made the topic much clearer and gave a very truthful view on what is going on in most part of the world. Why is it men who love natural women also go after unnatural women? Have you seen those women from the middle east they are covered from head to toe with very pretty faces. They leave a Man with so much to think about until their final meeting. How about this, a woman should be heard about and not seen everywhere.

4 minutes ago · 

• February 13, 2011 at 4:07am · Like
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  Sandra Ekpenyong @ Tony... well said, I think the problem is that people are not honest with themselves thus cannot be honest with other people about who they are and their feelings. There is nothing wrong with if you like make-up or not, just make sure that you are doing what you are doing because you are comfortable in your own skin not because a man or woman is telling you that this is their idea of beautiful, because everyone has what their idea of beauty is. Real beauty comes from within whether you are a man or woman. 
  
  I meet women who use to wear make-up and dress up nicely and now because they are married they let themselves go and wonder why their men are in the streets. Meanwhile they will tell you that their husbands like them 'without make up' but they are chasing every skirt. Sadly these women have lost all sense of reasoning that you must love yourself first. I use to model years ago, but I would not want a person dating me solely based on my looks or because I can cook a mean soup! No I want someone that I can have an engaging conversation with, that mentally and spiritually challenges me. Will looks fade, absolutely but integrity and knowing what you want and who you are should never......... peace and have a happy Sunday. On my way to church

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  Ama Kachikwu JP I think people are finding it so difficult to get meaning out of a simple write up. Is make-up the subject of debate? What is the lesson here for mothers, upcoming teenagers, adults, men and women alike? A girl at 20 has gone far to the land where you and I hate to really think of and most are busy looking for loopholes to attack Queen Ama. I am afraid if nothing can be learnt from this, we have a problem. Guys open up and see the deep meaning of this write up. Any mother under the sound of my debate bring up your daughter in the way of the lord, teach her the right path and when she grows she will not depart from it. Queen Ama is not the topic of discussion and when it is I will bring the matter to the drawing board. Thanks for all your contributions.

  February 13, 2011 at 9:03pm · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP Sandra married men do not cheat on their wives because of the way they look. There are so many factors responsible for a Man looking outside or looking elsewhere to replace one. I guess that is another topic for discussion.Most men with pretty wives end up treating a woman not as good-looking as his wife better. Do you ever wonder why? If it is a question of look, makeup, beauty why does he not go for a prettier woman outside. Ignorance has killed many!

  February 13, 2011 at 9:18pm · Like
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  Stephanie Udokamma Kachikwu Akpiroroh Ama i totally agree with u on that.
  love ur woman for who she is not for what she puts on.
  if mac n marykay go out of market, that means u also go out of mkt.
  who says u cant look good without make-up

  February 13, 2011 at 10:23pm · Like
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  Sandra Ekpenyong @ Ama... Concerning married men cheating on wives, I do a lot of counseling and when I get to counsel a lot of couples, one of the major complaints is that Nigerian women let themselves go. Now of course I reason of some of these men but I can also say from experience, know a couple of friends who have gotten married do not wear make-up and dress nicely because they have 'bagged the man' That is a backward way of thinking. How about looking good for yourself, remaining healthy for your family etc...
  
  The issue was natural versus wearing make-up. People must do what makes them comfortable. For years I refused to become saved because I saw all these DRY BABES, young and vibrant looking like armed robbers because they were serving God. Nonsense! When I became saved one of the things that the Lord spoke to me that He would use me to let other young women know that they can be beautiful and serve God, they can wear make-up, high hill shoes and preach.. it is the content of the heart that is most important thing of all. 
  
  Many parents come to me and thank me for being real in my preaching and dressing because it inspires their children to realize that they can look good and still minister the Gospel. Have I ever been invited to a church were they are all 'NATURAL' absolutely... but I make it plain to the pastor that I wear ear-rings and everything, and if it is a problem for them, I do not preach there. I am not going to pacify anyone who has already judged me by my exterior. It would seem like in the end they have me preach and then invite me back again. 
  
  Nothing wrong with natural (my sister wears her hair natural) and that is a choice for her. Let us be bigger and better than this. If you like natural babes chase them, if you like women that wear make-up and then chase them... for me, you can even buy my make up.... I wear IMAN... 

  February 13, 2011 at 10:45pm · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP Being Natural is not just about makeup, a natural person is simple and down to earth, not pretentious as Ben had explained. Natural means having had a minimum of processing or preservative treatment, unbleached and undyed, off-white. In accordance with nature.relaxed and unaffected ( peace one exudes), inevitable like death and ageing. NATURAL is based on innate moral sense.

  February 13, 2011 at 11:08pm · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP @Augustine thanks for your comment, you seem to have a better understanding of what being natural involves. Perhaps you can help others who think being natural involves non-application of make-up.@Tony some girls with their padded face at Allen are far more natural than a woman kept at home as a wife. Have you ever wondered why the so-called prostitutes end up having a home before the outwardly clean looking girl. That Man has seen something within he can mould and use for himself. However, prostitution is not the subject of the debate, please let us stay on the topic.

  February 14, 2011 at 8:08am · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP @Andrew you hit the nail on the head."cosmetic" surgery is an abomination -- don't get your body carved up, please. If a woman had confidence in herself, understood she needs to work more on her most private and deepest side which is her character, morals, wisdom then cosmetic surgery would not arise. What I find amazing is one could at the age of 20 have such a very high priority about altering their image. Please Mothers, help your daughters build up their confidence, love your children equally, Say nice things to your kids. Sometimes some Women encourage their teenage daughters to compete with their aunts, friends and even their siblings. What are you training that child to become. You forget you need to start building up the Child's confidence, character and morals more than anything else. My father made me feel like a queen all through my life until he passed away in 2007. It was so bad that the attention he gave me became a problem within and outside, but that is what has gingered me up today to start Queen Ama's Food For Thought attracting Millions now. Thank you so much for your contributions.

  February 14, 2011 at 8:20am · Like
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  Grace Oseyi Ama, i must commend you for such inspirin topics you always bring to the fore. Topics dt bother on issues we'r afraid to confornt, issues that hv mared many lives bcos they hv no knowledge on how to handle them. Whether it's your opinion abt d topic of discussion or others opinion, a new knowledge is always been impacted. More Grace to you Ama.

  February 14, 2011 at 10:48am · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP @Grace I love you for appreciating. You will go far in life because you choose to learn , appreciate and not envious. May your knowledge and understanding base expand. That is what makes a woman.

  February 14, 2011 at 11:22am · Like
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  Dagunduro Sunday · 2 mutual friends

  plscome home b4 9pm

  February 14, 2011 at 3:49pm · Like
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  Ama Kachikwu JP Thank you all for your contributions. For more info on being natural go to 
  
  http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/....

  February 14, 2011 at 6:54pm · Like
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  Kate Iyere True talk. Pls tel them.

  February 14, 2011 at 7:39pm · Like
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  Nadia Rebecca Alex A Looking good come s from within, like Sandra said, u can be christain and still look smokingly hot...I tell people be urself...no one is in the world to impress anyone...do you and feel good...Ama is right..guy love Natureleeee look, it makes thems see you for who you are and want you more...

  February 15, 2011 at 6:01pm · Like
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  Mbah Ngozi well said gal, dis write-up will go a long way in building the confidence of ladies. Its a topic most of us definitely relate to. its time we quit trying too hard.

  February 15, 2011 at 6:27pm · Like
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  George Nze Modern makeup has done a great deal of help to women,In all aspects of beauty, Extremity is always a problem.

  February 28, 2011 at 2:16pm · Like
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