Are You Searching For Love In The Wrong Place?

Christy A. Iguid March 3 at 10:16pm

Can I ask u an advice? I know u are a spirited and open minded woman and I really like your website so I wanna open up to you.

There is this man that I am inlove with. At first it was ok, I just saw him one time only. He was such a gentleman and I don't know I just fell in-love with him. I tried to make him know I was in-love with him and he was kind enough to tell that he was already inlove to someone from his country (Bulgaria). I was discouraged though but I kept hoping for it that maybe miracle will happen and he would love me back. I don't know I did stupid things that maybe he really didn't like.I shared his photo in my wall on a social -network site without waiting for his answer if it's ok or not. I don't like him to feel embarass so I asked my friends to like his photo and not to comment any negative things because he knows our language, but some of my friends were just teasing. He thought we made fun of him but God knows I really don't mean harm to him.I shared a song "I WISH I COULD" two times on my wall that was the day after I met him because I really wish I could save that moment at the street.  Afterwards, I shared again the same information because I wanted him to know that I wish I could shelter him from everything, but it's like things went wrong...I don't know how to explain to him now to make him believe and understand. I made mistakes and I am not a perfect person, but when I am in love, I've always been honest to say how I feel. What have I done? I regret but it's too late already. I am hurting because he is really a good man to me.

Ama       March 13 at 8:00am

Wow from Bulgaria! 

Hello Christy,

Thanks for sharing with me.

I do not think you have much of an issue here other than trying so hard to steal and share what belongs to another person. The result in the short term is disrespect and hurt. I am not surprised you are getting this negative reaction.

There are basic rules and not even the 21st century modernization can change it. A man hates to be chased and likes to do the work of attracting the opposite sex. It is a challenge. Although some pretend to be coy. There is no shy Man, just wait until one gets what they want or take charge of his territory.

Christy there is a difference between true love and infatuation. I can say any form of love which gets you thinking of that individual every minute, second and hour where you cannot do any other thing to the point where you become anxious is infatuation. It is a bit like having 2 pints of beer in a nite club and all of a sudden all those Men you would normally not speak to become attractive. Infatuation is like a High, the only way it can be cured is to go through what you are going through right now. You will be okay soon and laugh at yourself afterwards. You begin to wonder if it was truly love and where has it gone. True Love can never die!

Here, is Queen Ama's take on Infatuation which is a negative devotion, most girls from the age of 16- 27 are likely to suffer from Infatuation. It is the time to develop yourself and focus on inner qualities but most of us get it so wrong.

I like the guy as much as you like him. You know why. He is quite sincere and has every right to protect his relationship by behaving the way his acting now.

My dear Christy, please get off that High called "Infatuation", look inwards and start developing yourself. Infatuation is a time waster.

You are a woman and men should chase, pamper you, get your attention. It should not be the other way round. I hope you take my advice and stop wasting emotions and negative energy.

Trust me this is no dream and it is not one that can be pursued, you will end up wasting resources.

Love,

Queen Ama.

Christy A. Iguid  March 13 at 8:10am 

Sigh... Sometimes it's difficult to accept things but i am trying to now. Yes, you are right. Love will just just come at the right time. I don't need to look because if it's meant to be, then it will be.

Thank you :)

"Are you Infatuated or Truly in Love"?

"Most girls from the ages of 16-27 are likely to suffer from Infatuation". It is a point where so many want to get married. Perhaps this explains the reason for high rate of divorce across the globe.

" We need to truly know who we are then only can we understand another person's terms and conditions.

"The impact of Infatuation is short term."

One can argue age-group 16-27 is a reasonable time to "test the waters", but one has to be careful not to get in when frozen. What does one expect, if not shock and rejection.

Labels: "It is called Infatuation", "Who has the duty of attracting the opposite sex?, "False ambition".