Saturday, 12 February 2011

Are You A Woman?

"Agent of Perfection"
Are you a Woman? Do you find yourself polishing and painting your face when expecting a male friend? I have come to tell you, they prefer natural looking women. They hate women who use strong bleaching agents, altering their image, they prefer your level of knowledge, wisdom, natural wit, confidence and character. They want that natural fragrance and smile when you say good-morning. They love the respect!


Men can get any butt size but what differentiates you from the next woman is your level of wisdom, style, personality, confidence and natural charm.

It kills them having to wait for you in the lounge while you spend so much time powdering your face and painting your lips.

Have you ever seen an ugly baby? It means there is no ugly woman. It is that innermost purity that matters more than anything else, that peace and warmth you exude.

Women are dying from stupid surgeries giving them a generous sized butt for a particular man, some wear tattoos with the Man's name. Most times he leaves you for a normal girl without any mark reminding him of his name. He knows and understands one will not be an asylum case should he decide to walk miles away from you.

I feel so sad the way another woman like me as left the surface of this Earth to another world which many are unfamiliar with and so scared to think about. Why accelerate the departure to that most dreadful place when you are not prepared. Miss Claudia Aderotimi was just 20, yet to be 21 and could enjoy 80 Years more. May her soul rest in peace. My heart goes out to her mother and family. I wonder how they feel right now.

Ignorance is killing many, the more I look at myself when I was 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19.20, 21, 22,23.24,25. Ehh! See all of you, you want to know my age. You see, we are all scared of ageing and dying.

The best way to deal with Age and death is to understand they are inevitable. You should live everyday as it is your last, do those things that are necessary, those things that help boost your confidence like your level of knowledge, articulation and self-expression. This you can get by reading, watching television, attracting faithful friends and buddies who share the same essence of life with you.

Sometimes you see a woman dressed to kill, and she opens her mouth to speak. My goodness! Who is the president of America? She does not know? Who has brought change to Egypt? Well I am not from Egypt how can I know that. Barbados is a lovely place for holiday and looking to chill out in one of this resort. Please where is Barbados, I am not going to resort to all your questions. Now, do you expect him to take you serious or plan a holiday with you? Communication is a big problem.

You are likely to cry out in the hotel when you see the bill. Shouting! Waiter I did not eat total.

Now, you see what matters!




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Jon Pol

Good note Ama! Women all over the world do need to realise that men value what they don't see more than what they do see. Shiny lips, long eyelashes and having a perfect the bra size is good for a one night stand but not necessarily for the altar!
8 hours ago · 


Craig

I love women in lots of make-up and I'm quite happy to wait while they put it on. And have I ever seen an ugly baby? Yes, all of them! But I agree that "cosmetic" surgery is an abomination -- don't get your body carved up, please.
6 hours ago · 


HisRoyalmajesty Peteroski

Hmmmm««U'r write up is touching!!
5 hours ago · 


Nathaniel 
The best criticism is that we make of ourselves, I think you are spot on on your evaluation in this piece. Without sounding personal, I hate makeup, I like my sofa, bed spread and pillow smelling fresh, I would like to bump into someone in my immaculate white shirt without a rainbow stain. The truth is television, western civilization and commercialization have diluted the way we see the world, and I dare to say this, women competing against self have made most to pay attention to irrelevances and less attention to such things as virtue, honest friendship, natural looks and sense of goodness, which was the principal thing God impacted a woman on creation.....the beauty of a woman is within not without, for outward appearance can be altered but the inside is a jewel that the goldsmiths fire cannot alter without sweat.See
5 hours ago · 


 Ben    

Good afternoon my DEAR. Nice One Queen Ama. I always find most of ur Write-ups very interesting. But what you need to understand about Women is that, whenever they are not in that their cosmetic- looking outfit, they believe that they will not be really appreciated by MEN, without knowing that their innermost displays are the things that matter most. Please my sincere regards to the deceased family that lost a GEM. Do have a Gr8 day. Please keep it up. Ciao.
4 hours ago ·


Ama   

 Mr Ezeigwe, thank you so much. I am happy Men are contributing their quota here. Women hear from the horses mouth!
3 hours ago · 


Sandra

Everyone is different, some of the same men who like 'natural' when they get it, will chase 'unnatural' in the end. People need to make up their mind and determine what it is that they really want
3 hours ago · 


Ama

Sandra, every human being has to be comfortable in their own skin. If you are not, then someone would persuade you to alter your image. We are all unique in our own way.
3 hours ago · 


Augustine   

Natural beauty is it. It connotes the real person and dignifies the essense of womanhood. It purifies the body and connects emotionally with the man who is defined in his expectation.
2 hours ago · 


Ama     

Augustine thank you! Ladies I hope you are reading the comments from the men?
2 hours ago · 


Augustine

Besides the make -up , surgery and hypes associated with dressing , the inner beauty and and other accessories , the INNER beauty is the key , at least on a personal level.
2 hours ago · 


Ama     

 Augustine, It took years to learn and understand. I am offering a free-consultative service to all women with the help of the men. I learnt the hard way.
2 hours ago · 


Augustine           True?

Ama 

Augustine, now I am learning from a little girl's experience is that not a hard, painful experience?
2 hours ago ·


Augustine

 Not at all, you are on course, some people still learn at 4O, you dont have an idea how people think and reflect on their activities these days
2 hours ago ·


Sandra         ‎

@ Ama... you are right about people being comfortable in their own skin...But also some men just like some women do not know what they want in a person... well said though
58 minutes ago · 




Ben 

Yea i believe that everyone is different with different opinions as well. But we should call spade "A Spade" Miss Sandra Ekpenyong, pls see, No man would wanna be identified with a fluke. The issue of chasing the unnatural at the end is mostly determined by that same woman who pretended to be a "STAINLESS" initially but later changed. Do ya think its funny to live xtra-marital lives? Men don't find it funny THOUGH. With due respect to "WOMANHOOD" Let me deviate a lil bit. With those Paintings, Heavy Powdering, & Cosmetic Surgery, they tend to behave like partial Creatures. Un-warranted Make-ups is one of the reasons y ma BIG BRO aborted a relationship leading to marriage cos her behavior started changing when few cash started rolling in. Sitting on the Mirrow to make up 4 15 - 20 mins, stopped washing he guys clothes when she must have fixed the latest Acrylic Nails. Hope you find this interesting. Gdnite Dear Peepz.

4 hours ago · 


Ben           Augustine Isioma Iwelu, plz chop knuckles, you know the KOKO. Its the stability of the innermost behaviours that keep them rolling. You see, it baffles me to see our SWEET Queens and Princesses in the banking sector unmarried. Nawaooooooooh

3 hours ago ·


Ama            ‎@Ben the reason for women in the banking sector not being married is also due to the lack of confidence of men who are intimidated by women earning far much than them. Although, the banking sector has a way of making women unfeminine n turning them into men. I must confess it could be unattractive.

25 minutes ago ·


Guys lets keep it real! I beg to differ. Ladies, pls don't be deceived by these stories...I see a lot gaps in terms of idealism and realism in the write ups above. This will be another case of...somebody knocking you down and blaming you for not standing. 

While it is a truism that women appear better in their natural looks but trust me, "men will always be attracted by the artificial looks". WHY? is a big question! @Sandra, i agree with you to a great extent that when men find the 'natural' they will still go out to to find the 'unnatural'. Yes, we want it natural but when we see the unnatural ladies our eye balls will almost fall out....lol...guys pls stop this sermon and be honest. However, when it becomes too much, guys can be easily turned off.

If it was all about being natural, the one night stand ladies would have gone out of business because being artificial is their area of strength. You need to see the packaging of the accessories (unnatural) and how men dive at them. Pls do visit Allen avenue and give me result.

Ladies, just know where to strike the balance and go for what is best for you. Remember, you can hardly satisfy a man 100%. With my experience in the banking sector, male customers whether priority or mass customers, will always be attracted by the unnatural ladies. They get more attention and get enough tips. It is also very easy for the unnatural ones to convince difficult customers. We have used them to to resolve very difficult issues.

The fear which some men have expressed about female bankers is the fact that the ladies meet a lot of men on a daily basis and can't cope with the imagination of what will be happening outside the banking hall. In addition this is the point Ama already alluded to above concerning pay.

In summary, i will say that when men want to get serious, they go out looking for the natural ones because the assumption is that they are in most cases the wife materials. But sooner or later, the same man will go out chasing unnatural. Therefore, i urge you guys to always match realism and idealism. Within the realm of idealism, it is plausible to go for the natural ladies but the reality is that men will ALWAYS be attracted to the unnatural ladies. Sometimes, i may not like 100% but i cannot deny the fact that the lady is actually looking good on those unnatural stuffs....This simply represents my opinion and will help balance earlier comments which was already making it sound like there was no value in being unnatural.
15 minutes ago ·

Tony            ‎@Ama K, i have been very busy lately but i couldn't hold myself when i read this topic. Great job! I hope to see other shades of opinion on this interesting topic
11 minutes ago · 


‎@Tony. Lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Very true. I agree with you on your strong view point you have brought to the table. It made the topic much clearer and gave a very truthful view on what is going on in most part of the world. Why is it men who love natural women also go after unnatural women? Have you seen those women from the middle east they are covered from head to toe with very pretty faces. They leave a Man with so much to think about until their final meeting. How about this, a woman should be heard about and not seen everywhere.
4 minutes ago · 
  • Sandra Ekpenyong @ Tony... well said, I think the problem is that people are not honest with themselves thus cannot be honest with other people about who they are and their feelings. There is nothing wrong with if you like make-up or not, just make sure that you are doing what you are doing because you are comfortable in your own skin not because a man or woman is telling you that this is their idea of beautiful, because everyone has what their idea of beauty is. Real beauty comes from within whether you are a man or woman. 

    I meet women who use to wear make-up and dress up nicely and now because they are married they let themselves go and wonder why their men are in the streets. Meanwhile they will tell you that their husbands like them 'without make up' but they are chasing every skirt. Sadly these women have lost all sense of reasoning that you must love yourself first. I use to model years ago, but I would not want a person dating me solely based on my looks or because I can cook a mean soup! No I want someone that I can have an engaging conversation with, that mentally and spiritually challenges me. Will looks fade, absolutely but integrity and knowing what you want and who you are should never......... peace and have a happy Sunday. On my way to church
    February 13, 2011 at 1:35pm · Like · 2
  • Ama Kachikwu JP I think people are finding it so difficult to get meaning out of a simple write up. Is make-up the subject of debate? What is the lesson here for mothers, upcoming teenagers, adults, men and women alike? A girl at 20 has gone far to the land where you and I hate to really think of and most are busy looking for loopholes to attack Queen Ama. I am afraid if nothing can be learnt from this, we have a problem. Guys open up and see the deep meaning of this write up. Any mother under the sound of my debate bring up your daughter in the way of the lord, teach her the right path and when she grows she will not depart from it. Queen Ama is not the topic of discussion and when it is I will bring the matter to the drawing board. Thanks for all your contributions.
    February 13, 2011 at 9:03pm · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP Sandra married men do not cheat on their wives because of the way they look. There are so many factors responsible for a Man looking outside or looking elsewhere to replace one. I guess that is another topic for discussion.Most men with pretty wives end up treating a woman not as good-looking as his wife better. Do you ever wonder why? If it is a question of look, makeup, beauty why does he not go for a prettier woman outside. Ignorance has killed many!
    February 13, 2011 at 9:18pm · Like
  • Stephanie Udokamma Kachikwu Akpiroroh Ama i totally agree with u on that.
    love ur woman for who she is not for what she puts on.
    if mac n marykay go out of market, that means u also go out of mkt.
    who says u cant look good without make-up
    February 13, 2011 at 10:23pm · Like
  • Sandra Ekpenyong @ Ama... Concerning married men cheating on wives, I do a lot of counseling and when I get to counsel a lot of couples, one of the major complaints is that Nigerian women let themselves go. Now of course I reason of some of these men but I can also say from experience, know a couple of friends who have gotten married do not wear make-up and dress nicely because they have 'bagged the man' That is a backward way of thinking. How about looking good for yourself, remaining healthy for your family etc...

    The issue was natural versus wearing make-up. People must do what makes them comfortable. For years I refused to become saved because I saw all these DRY BABES, young and vibrant looking like armed robbers because they were serving God. Nonsense! When I became saved one of the things that the Lord spoke to me that He would use me to let other young women know that they can be beautiful and serve God, they can wear make-up, high hill shoes and preach.. it is the content of the heart that is most important thing of all. 

    Many parents come to me and thank me for being real in my preaching and dressing because it inspires their children to realize that they can look good and still minister the Gospel. Have I ever been invited to a church were they are all 'NATURAL' absolutely... but I make it plain to the pastor that I wear ear-rings and everything, and if it is a problem for them, I do not preach there. I am not going to pacify anyone who has already judged me by my exterior. It would seem like in the end they have me preach and then invite me back again. 

    Nothing wrong with natural (my sister wears her hair natural) and that is a choice for her. Let us be bigger and better than this. If you like natural babes chase them, if you like women that wear make-up and then chase them... for me, you can even buy my make up.... I wear IMAN... 
    February 13, 2011 at 10:45pm · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP Being Natural is not just about makeup, a natural person is simple and down to earth, not pretentious as Ben had explained. Natural means having had a minimum of processing or preservative treatment, unbleached and undyed, off-white. In accordance with nature.relaxed and unaffected ( peace one exudes), inevitable like death and ageing. NATURAL is based on innate moral sense.
    February 13, 2011 at 11:08pm · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP @Augustine thanks for your comment, you seem to have a better understanding of what being natural involves. Perhaps you can help others who think being natural involves non-application of make-up.@Tony some girls with their padded face at Allen are far more natural than a woman kept at home as a wife. Have you ever wondered why the so-called prostitutes end up having a home before the outwardly clean looking girl. That Man has seen something within he can mould and use for himself. However, prostitution is not the subject of the debate, please let us stay on the topic.
    February 14, 2011 at 8:08am · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP @Andrew you hit the nail on the head."cosmetic" surgery is an abomination -- don't get your body carved up, please. If a woman had confidence in herself, understood she needs to work more on her most private and deepest side which is her character, morals, wisdom then cosmetic surgery would not arise. What I find amazing is one could at the age of 20 have such a very high priority about altering their image. Please Mothers, help your daughters build up their confidence, love your children equally, Say nice things to your kids. Sometimes some Women encourage their teenage daughters to compete with their aunts, friends and even their siblings. What are you training that child to become. You forget you need to start building up the Child's confidence, character and morals more than anything else. My father made me feel like a queen all through my life until he passed away in 2007. It was so bad that the attention he gave me became a problem within and outside, but that is what has gingered me up today to start Queen Ama's Food For Thought attracting Millions now. Thank you so much for your contributions.
    February 14, 2011 at 8:20am · Like
  • Grace Oseyi Ama, i must commend you for such inspirin topics you always bring to the fore. Topics dt bother on issues we'r afraid to confornt, issues that hv mared many lives bcos they hv no knowledge on how to handle them. Whether it's your opinion abt d topic of discussion or others opinion, a new knowledge is always been impacted. More Grace to you Ama.
    February 14, 2011 at 10:48am · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP @Grace I love you for appreciating. You will go far in life because you choose to learn , appreciate and not envious. May your knowledge and understanding base expand. That is what makes a woman.
    February 14, 2011 at 11:22am · Like
  • Ama Kachikwu JP Thank you all for your contributions. For more info on being natural go to 

    http://queenamafoodforthought.blogspot.com/....
    February 14, 2011 at 6:54pm · Like
  • Kate Iyere True talk. Pls tel them.
    February 14, 2011 at 7:39pm · Like
  • Nadia Rebecca Alex A Looking good come s from within, like Sandra said, u can be christain and still look smokingly hot...I tell people be urself...no one is in the world to impress anyone...do you and feel good...Ama is right..guy love Natureleeee look, it makes thems see you for who you are and want you more...
    February 15, 2011 at 6:01pm · Like
  • Mbah Ngozi well said gal, dis write-up will go a long way in building the confidence of ladies. Its a topic most of us definitely relate to. its time we quit trying too hard.
    February 15, 2011 at 6:27pm · Like
  • George Nze Modern makeup has done a great deal of help to women,In all aspects of beauty, Extremity is always a problem.
    February 28, 2011 at 2:16pm · Like
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Friday, 11 February 2011

The Natural Spellbound Look

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I would never forget my classmate in secondary school who had a bent hand, but yet looked more attractive to men than the complete women who had no confidence in themselves. 

It is phenomenal, women spend so much money on make up but look far better natural with the opposite sex clinging to their raw look in the morning.

Get rid of those fake nails, use subtle make up, spend your money buying books, expand your knowledge base, cook food made with fresh ingredients at home, most especially focus on those things that are long lasting like wisdom, character and knowledge etc.

People often ask what is the secret to beauty? It is straightforward, Confidence and Peace, which has nothing to do with the size of your buttocks, breast, eyes, nose, hands, designer label and heavy make up. They are divine acquired virtues by choosing and following the road less traveled.

I was not far from the truth when a male friend asked about that road less traveled by most women. The natural spellbound look.


Fred       
Ama.. what is your say on Ladies that Bleach. I had a problem with my Ex. She refused to stop. Why do girls do that? Please I need to know why. I think a woman devalues herself.
December 20, 2010 at 11:40pm ·



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Ama 

Fred a woman who tries so hard altering her image has no confidence in herself.
Have you ever wondered why not too good looking women enter into a home, keep the home; fast earning the right and title Mrs before the so called beautiful women?
Quite simple, those not too good looking ladies understand the importance of attributes like inner purity; the fear of GOD which is the beginning of wisdom; respectful; know how to spend less time altering their image and pampering a Man.
Most important because they spend less time on their external beauty it makes anyone around them to easily tap into their inner beauty and purity. 
I will end by stating beauty is complete when the "external beauty complements the inner beauty". 
December 21, 2010 at 12:03am ·

Fred 
Thanks Ama. The confidence issue is so true. A real Man wants a real woman. 
While a Fake lady will always attract a Fake dude and cry later after the break-up.
December 21, 2010 at 12:31am ·
Vanity Food For Thught
"Many beautiful women have gone to the underworld before their time because of vanity upon vanity. They want to look like celebrities in hollywood but forgetting the celebrities are truly longing to have their own lives".
"A 20 year old Nigerian girl, Claudia Aderotimi has just lost her life from altering her buttocks. She flew all the way from London to die of a heart attack in the US for the operation, which would give her a larger shapelier and ripe butt".
"The former first lady of Nigeria " Late Stella Obasanjo died in Spain due to the the same reason".
"Ladies we work so hard to look good for men rather than ourselves, sometimes we lose our lives in the process".
"Is it worth having your buttocks carved into another shape when another Man has no need for that particular shape".
"The natural spellbound look is what will attract true love to your doorsteps".
"We need to wear makeup in moderation".
"Strip yourself bare and beauty will not be far from you".
"The family has a role to play in shaping the attitude, morals and conduct of young girls who have images of beauty and perfection in their minds at a very early age". 


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Tuesday, 8 February 2011

My Sister's Husband Wants Me in Bed.


How do you handle your sister's husband who secretly wants you in bed? Is it proper to inform your sister or act like nothing is going on?


Queen Ama's Debate


      
Consider me to be a woman, i will discuss it with my sister knowing full well that it will cause a lot of issues.Reason being that if i fail to do that , he might go ahead and report me that i want to sleep with him. No body will believe me when i said the truth at that time. Things happen in this clime.On the other hand, if i fail to discuss with my sister , I will confide in somebody in the family to ensure that when the matter erupts at any level, i will have a witness.
Saturday at 11:45am · 

          
Ama sha! Where do these topics come from? You should be preparing your own tv show oh!
Saturday at 12:06pm · 


Chris Ben, I agree with you, she has practically turn me into an online person. If it is her dream, she will go places, the traits are there and intellectual content to drive the debate and contributions are also available from all of us on her friends list, regards.
Saturday at 12:13pm · 



Very touchy subject and requires a lot of prayer and wisdom. My sister and I have totally different taste. I would pray for God to expose him or her (women could do the same thing) with someone else and when my sister is crying her heart out, I might or might not chose to tell her. Cannot foresee this happening unless the sisters are in competition. Normally when a guy thinks that he can play two sisters it is because there is some strong sibling rivalry between them. Deal with sisterly issues and her husband chasing her other sibling will not become an issue. The husband sees a weakness or crack in the family and wants to take advantage...
Saturday at 3:10pm · 



I'm a guy and if it's a woman...that's hard 2 define-temptation!.If it so happens,it's still hard 4 me 2 define 'cos I've not experience such b4...I just need 2 be strong.
Saturday at 5:53pm · 



Its very realistic. Sometimes I wonder d stuff men r made off.well if I find myself in such shoes,firstly,if i v an alternative,i ll leave d house,so dat I dnt bring prob to d home. Secondarily,i ll try create a scenario of such happening in another home and discuss wit my sist,how she reacts ll determine if I ll tell her or not. Discussing with members of my immediate home, on d issue,in her absence ll also do.i ll v to do a personal check on myself to find out if there's smth I do dt draws d man's attention;maybe d way I dress or prepare his meal.in all,one must seek d face of God,so dat u dnt end up bringing probs to ur sists home
Saturday at 7:30pm · 



I agree we need daily prayer and reflection in every thing we do otherwise, we might end up in temptation without being conscious of it
Saturday at 7:32pm ·  



Might not have the courage to tell my sister but will surely tell a close member of my family incase he decides to tell my sister...
Saturday at 7:38pm ·  



is ur man that set all of us on" intellectual" fire back?
Saturday at 7:39pm ·  



What exactly would prayer achieve?
Saturday at 7:43pm ·  



Guys this kind of thing happens a lot...am a living testimony of that,I used to stay th an aunt and her husband was something else,he wanted me to sleep with him,he wuld not let me be,wenever she was not around he wuld want to force hos way...I culd not bear it any longer so I had to call my granny and told her abt it,I culd not tell my aunt cos she sees dis her husband as d best man ever,she keeps saying her husband can not cheat on her and bla bla bla...I became a rude girl in d house cos of him,den finally I left her house cos I could not cope any longer...@ama thanks for all dis topic cos am really learning a lot...may God help us all
Saturday at 7:45pm · 



Ben, prayer in clear terms, is a petition to the ALMIGHTY for assistance, guidance and direction on certian issues, development and decision. Prayer is necceasary when life and circumstances around you throw up challenges that confronts your personal being and tasks you to your limit. We are human. On a personal level, i strongly believe in personal communication with my creator through prayer and reflection on things i do, say or think.Effective prayer guides and open avenues to address challenges that are beyond your control .We live in terrible times and things happen that creates doubts in us the more. In this instance, prayer will direct you assuming you are weak and you can also prayer for the man in question for strenght to overcome the mis-directed sexual urge in him. But if you are strong willed and can take objective decision , certainly you dont need prayer in this regard. I hope this clarifies? cheers
Saturday at 7:56pm ·  



Nopes it clarifies nothing at least to me, kindly elucidate further because I am at a loss. How does prayer guide and open avenues? Are you saying prayer would make her not fall for the man? Exactly how does one end up in temptation without knowing it?
Saturday at 9:05pm · 



‎@ Sandra I totally agree with you. @ Chris the only way you can stand on your feet is if you are constantly on your knees. The importance of prayer and liaising with your source cannot be ignored. Temptations can only be conquered if we get the help of GOD. If you are deeply spiritual you will be warned before hand. In all of this I am happy nobody is saying the sister must be promiscuous that is why the man is chasing her. Sandra is dead right, sister rivalry cannot be overlooked in this regard. It is like the devil, once he sees you are not united with your maker that is a good loop hole for him.. If 2 sisters are truly united and the married sister does not speak negatively about her own sister, the husband would dare not thread on that territory. He understands he would loose out. I often laugh at women who say negative things about their friends to their husband, you are only saying to Ur Man she is quite easy give a go at it! Most times they do try!
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I can understand what Sandra said about sister rivalry, but I cannot understand why most people say pray pray pray, if those prayers work this world would not be like this.
Saturday at 11:20pm · 


Ama 

Saturday at 11:36pm · 



LOL Ama ok lets not derail this topic. Someday we will discuss this. Someday.
Sunday at 12:31am ·



‎'Be not anxious for anything but by prayer and petition make your requests known unto God and the peace of God which passes all undrstanding will keep ur hearts and mind through Christ Jesus'. Phil. 4;6,7. U establish fellowship with God that strengthens, calms and empowers you to face life's challenges when u pray. U just need to xperience it urself . That can only be a better proof for u.
Sunday at 3:22am · 



Ben, please read my comment specifically on prayers again, if you dont agree with it.please leave it out.I am not writing to convince anybody on any topic, i write to clarify and contribute on some topical issue. i hope this clarifies regards\
Sunday at 9:14am · 



It would be appropriate to speak with your sister about this problem. However, It is written what GOD has put together let no man put asunder. Your sister may turnaround and attack you, saying " you are trying to break her home". However, it may just do one good to pack your bag and leave immediately. One needs to flee once confronted with that deep situation. I do not see the need for confrontation. A sister who probably gives a good impression about her husband would fight you. How can she accept the fact, her husband wants another woman who happens to be her sister, deep down she knows her sister has not made up a false story but she needs to protect her marriage. Assuming the one being chased chose to have a taste of the forbidden pie it could go in her favour landing her a husband who belongs to her sister. It has happened in the past and still happening. Is it good to expose the devil before he drags you into the marketplace without clothes on and exposing your body contour?
Sunday at 4:36pm ·  



A third option Ama is to pack up and leave like you mentioned above and avoid visiting them.come up with any excuse if your sis. wants you to visit.i believe as years go by,maybe his interest will wane.I do wonder why men do this.But any God Fearing man would never nurse such thought.
Sunday at 7:13pm · 



Kelechi though art very wise, totally agree with you!
Sunday at 8:56pm ·  



It is a tough one. Once you pack your bag to depart and refuse to give into his licentiousness the man is going to make up so many negative things against you. Your departure leaves him with a conscience to wrestle with for the rest of his life, but that is if he has one. He may run to his wife to reveal the secret, which you decided not to unveil in the first place. He would ascribe the path of a saint to himself. Guess what, she may not see beyond the glossy surface but gets caught up in the lie.
Sunday at 11:35pm · 


@ Ama.. I do agree that running away does not solve anything.
Yesterday at 12:13am · 



How does one really resolve a problem like this one without so much conflict? Those who have been in similar situations and have success stories to share can help one here. Please let us hear from you. @ Winifred how have you managed your relationship with your aunt all this time since you left the house? How about her husband has he tried to make peace with you? How did granny resolve this issue of infidelity amongst an older aunt, big uncle and niece? How did you feel when he tried to touch you? Do you feel there is anything you did to have elicited an abominable action by an in-law who happens to be your aunt's husband? Are they still together?
Yesterday at 12:39am · 



Winifred  Stow 


‎@ama sure dey are still together,granny did not tell my aunt,only spoke to d hussy and told him that if he tries it with any other person she would let his wife know...of course he was ashamed of himself,whenever he sees me he keeps saying why don't I have a forgiven spirit probably cos I don't like them him anymore...I felt really bad though, I told him I ll rather go and sleep with a dog than sleeping with him becos he is my aunts husband so he should respect that fact...for my aunt I relate with her like nothing happens when ever I see her but I get angry when she makes comment like her husband is a good man and he can never cheat on her bla bla bla bla, sometimes I feel like just telling her so she would stop all those talks....
4 hours ago · 


Winifred you made a big success of this and congratulations. You went to the core of the matter without appearing to be confrontational. I mean granny did a good job. Winifred I must commend you because your behavior clearly shows you have respect and love for your aunt. I hope others in similar situation can learn from this one. Many get carried away and cannot control their appetite for sex and would stick around with their sibling's husband. What do you hope to achieve from a home built on a dirty foundation? You out there with your sibling's husband how do you feel? Do you have children for the man already? Let us hear from you.

3 minutes ago · Like




Well from the situation of things she is in a dilemma of sustaining her relationship with her sister and her marriage with her husband,she may not want to come to the point where she would have to choose between her husband and her sister,because definitely she may want to sustain both relationships,and moreover i can not tell which of the sisters are elder to who? why would someone want to invite problems to their doorstep??? you know you sister 
Yesterday at 11:45am ·  



‎'isnt married yet and you invite her to come and stay with you especially if she is your younger sister,why should she come and stay with the sister and the husband which may yet not have any kids and may still be a young couple,the marriage still has a young foundation and is likely to crumble at the slightest hit!if she invites the sister to come stay with her what does she expect to happen??she sees is it as a harmless approach,especially if she comes to stay for long,what is the sister coming to do at her place???why can't she stay with her parents,she can only come for short visits,this is what happens also with housemaids who are so young and fresh,fully grown men have eyes with hormones and can hardly control themselves,this only happens if the sister sees are sister's husband constantly everyday,if the sister should eventually inform her sister of her husband's advances she should just not react at all because the problem would backfire,because she caused the problem by inviting her sister in the first place,she should speak maturedly with the sister and send her packing,if she really loves her sister she would understand that her sister's marriage is much more important and needs to be secured,and the sister should not make the mistake of confronting the husband because he would deny it and the sister has no prove that her husband actually did that,neither did she see her husband herself making advances at her sister,she should just send the sister away and let sleeping dogs lie,at the end of the day everyone is happy.
Yesterday at 12:07pm · 



Wowwwwwwwwwwwww, this is an amazing topic for me and very surreal because I think there must be a lot of dysfunctional people in the world! First of all how can your spouse want to mess around with his sister-in-law? Secondly, what type ofsister is so insecure to think that her sister will come in and steal her husband? Thirdly, are we a bunch on uncontrollable animals that we cannot control our sexual urges that we have not set of boundaries, standards or norms by which well-brought up people live by? I am very concerned as I am aware that certain things do happen that I as a pastor have to sometimes deal with but at the end of the day, it proves to me that proper upbringing is everything!
Yesterday at 2:21pm ·  



When it comes to trust, no one is eligible except God,so whether sister,brother,uncle,aunty,mother,father,pastor,brother in christ,sister in christ,grand children in christ everyone is capable of anything!people don't realise what they are capable of until they find themselves in such a situation where they have easily judged others....lolzzz
Yesterday at 2:27pm ·  



Quite honestly I cannot imagine............ my sister's husband, isn't that like incest, sleeping with your sister... this is not a judgment call it is just a very sickening thought to meeeeeeeeeee.
Yesterday at 2:29pm ·  



 The world we live in is a world of possibilities,so nothing at all suprises me
Yesterday at 2:32pm ·  



Thank you all for your thoughtful contributions, knowledge and wisdom. I have learnt so much from everyone. Further comments and questions on this hot matter should be directed to ama@queenama.com. Well, that is it for this weekend on QueenAma'sfoodforthought. Have a wonderful and fruitful week ahead.



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